I get asked that a lot. I have had the same answer before and after. It’s not for me. I won’t live my life that way. That being said I support polygamy but I don’t support some polygamists who engage in various kinds of fraud, legal loophole jumping or worse, abuse. Those folks should be punished.
There are far more good polygamist families that get no media attention than the handful of sects stinking up the rest of the groups. It’s an unfair judgement, we the outsiders, do. We all have an opinion of polygamy. Some of us are more vocal about it. I have had little to say about it until today.
Utah will not prosecute polygamist. It’s a Freedom of Religion black hole that would require public funding to sustain a fight that will offer no resolution. What does Utah do with its sects who they all know are creating havoc among the communities? They gather information for years, come up with a way to attack the families that are breaking certain laws and go after whoever they can. It’s a roll of the dice. One of 6 of them will get nailed for something. Is it right? No. Is it what happens? Yes.
Until there is leadership in place nothing will ever change in that state. They look the other way and hope nothing bad is going on.
One of the people I have come to know lives in California. She went online filled out a food stamp application for the state of Utah. Just to prove to me they don’t do any due diligence. She provided documentation she ordered online, but no driver’s license or even her social security card. She communicated back and forth and was able to obtain $60 of food stamps a month from the State of Utah. She went to a Walmart, still in California, and purchased food items, took pictures of all of this and posted it on twitter. She cut up the card and turned herself in. Again the State of Utah sent her a letter stating they were amending her food stamps down to $15. She called them and told them yet they did not prosecute or even take her funds away. She has left the account untouched since her first trip and says her account now has $75 in it.
What is going on in Utah? How can it be that easy to do? And why when she told on herself did they do nothing? It’s confusing. No wonder the bad sects get away with all of it.
Historically polygamy has always been the black sheep. We are all learning more about what polygamy is about.
The only family I know who is actively seeking the right to marry all of the wives into his family gets little or no media attention. And he has done everything the right way. He has remained open, spent tens of thousands of his own money and no one listens. Why can’t he marry all of his wives? He pays taxes, he is not abusive and he provides for his family on the back of his hard work. Where is the support from all of the other polygamist for this family? Isn’t that the reason they do spiritual marriages? Because they want marriages within all of the relationships? I would think all polygamist families would be outside his home asking what can we do to help you! You are the champion of our cause? Nope. That’s not happening. Why? Because all polygamist fear going to jail for their right to live as a polygamist.
Its easier to pack your boxes and run out of state than to stand right there and say come at me bro. I believe and support the rights of all religion beliefs. That’s what America was founded on?
I am Catholic which always comes with a groan of disdain from people who only know Catholic religion as the one where Priests abuse kids. Not all Catholics are like that and we fight for the victims that have no voice and no protection.
Why are more people not fighting for families to exercise their freedom of religion to become a family? If you want to marry someone or 4 someones, go for it I say. Put laws against underage marriages. Put in laws about actually doing something about the corruption and fraud some sects built their names on. You can’t regulate what people believe in but you can regulate the manner in which they partake of it. Set up town hall meetings and at the very least start having open discussions.
Or keep turning a blind eye and ignore the screams of the women and children forced into a life they feel has no exit door.
If you are a polygamist and want to leave, do it. You are an individual and have all the same rights anyone else does. There are more and more being set up specifically to help you. There are more people leaving polygamy than ever before. Why is that?
If you are a polygamist and know of abuses for God’s sake tell someone. You don’t have to hide it anymore. Someone will help you.
If you are like me and don’t get polygamy, just let them live their lives. Our Constitution protects their rights. As long as the State agencies approve of the food stamps going to these women and men there is nothing you can do to change it.
If it comes down to denying a family of 10 enough money to eat or not to eat the State chooses to give them the money. So let them have it. If the resources are being abused at some point they will get caught. Or they will get $15 each month. That still blows my mind.
What I learned about polygamy was not good. I heard stories of mental, emotional abuse and abandonment. So much so a journal was kept documenting all of the terrible things being said with a note on the front saying If You Find This.
Polygamy can work if the adults inside of it respect each other. Otherwise it turns into a cluster you know what of jealousy, mistrust, and a lifetime of wasted hope.
We all can do a better job of supporting polygamy. Or if not, do something. Because asking me what do I think about it has made me realize how bizarre that whole thing really was. You can’t remove someone who is brainwashed into believing if you leave you lose everything. No one would ever leave with that kind of threat. Only a strong woman would find her way out.
Time will tell, won’t it baby 😉
I am excited to read all of your comments. I know this one is throwing gasoline on this fire Lol Let me hear your thoughts!