13th Voicemail – March 29, 2015

vm  This was the day we were having some issues. I posted on Twitter early that morning that it’s over. I meant all of the fighting and all of the miscommunication we had going on. She was worried I meant the relationship. That is not at all what I meant. I was being proactive and letting her know that the small arguments were over.

Later that night I texted her while she was soaking in a bath. I told her to call me when she got out. Out of nowhere she sent me these pictures. She said look at the one it looked funny with the way her leg was in the bubbles. I did not ask her for these photos. She freely sent them. It worked because that night we had sex for 2 hours Lol

13th Voicemail 3-29-2015 3:13am

Hey baby, I’m seeing a tweet that just says it’s over. I can only assume you’re talking about us? Maybe I’m wrong, I know how I am. I don’t know what’s going on or why you would say it that way? Because I love you and I believe that you love me too and so I’m just trying to figure out what’s going on. So I get if you need some space…

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RIP Helen

Greetings from Las Vegas. I have sad news for everyone. On Saturday night Lindsay took her mom into the hospital. She took a fall and said she couldn’t see for a few minutes. Just to be safe Ben and Lindsay took her into the ER to get checked out. Before then she was okay. Her health has been a concern and she has been sick for a few years. This was the first time she had a fall. We all began to pray that she would be okay. The early report was they would keep her overnight for observations and run some tests. By Sunday morning, things had gotten worse. She was bleeding in her brain and had suffered a ministroke. They were trying to figure out what to do with her already declined health issues. She was alert and aware of what was going on until the afternoon. That’s when Ben called us and told me to come now. I called Drew and told him to get ready to go I would pick him up. We got to the hospital and was able to spend a few hours with her. She was not conscious and not talking at all. We sat with everyone and prayed some more. On Sunday night Lindsay’s mom Helen passed away. She was 68 years old. guardian-angel

It was really hard to see her decline so fast. I had just seen her a few days before at the airport when I dropped Lindz off from our Cancun trip. I’m happy that we made it in time and we were all able to say goodbye, but still crushing. I have known Helen since I was 22 years old. She was like a second mom to me. She used to give me such hell every time I saw her. That was her sense of humor. If she wasn’t picking on you then she didn’t like you. Drew also has known her that long so it was hard for both of us.

Lindsay had already had long talks with her about what her wishes were. She wanted to be cremated and then taken back to Australia, where she was born. So Lindsay will be taking her home on Sunday with Ben. She is doing okay. She’s not fine, she is really upset and grieving. But she is doing a lot better than I thought. I think she knew it was going to happen soon so she was a little prepared. Ben is taking care of her and Drew and I are just making the phone calls and letting everyone know. We don’t know what to say or do but we are keeping busy and doing all we can.

God bless her and her family. I pray they are shown mercy at this time and they know how much life she had lived. Helen was a pistol. There is no other word that fits. She was funny, smart, and articulate. Then out of nowhere she would pop off with the most random things and you would look at her like she had two heads. I will miss her and I look forward to seeing her in Heaven someday.

The funeral will be on Monday in Sydney. There will be a memorial service sometime next month in Iowa for all of Helen’s American friends. She made a home in Iowa for the past 25 years and enjoyed all of her friends and neighbors there. I can’t go to Australia, I need to get back to my kids. Drew and I are staying until tomorrow night so I can get this office situated with Mark and Kim. My kids are back in Chicago with the nannies.

There is one story about Helen I want to share. It’s a story I tell a lot to all of our friends. Helen had come to visit Lindsay for a week. We were standing in the grocery store trying to figure out what groceries to buy. Then Helen said “Well I’m not cooking so don’t buy me anything. You can take me to all these fancy restaurants.” Then she turned around and walked out of the store. Lindsay and I were just looking at each other in disbelief. We put the cart up and walked out. There was Helen sitting in the wrong car trying to figure out the seatbelt Lol We both started laughing so hard and finally got her out of the car. It was pretty funny at the time. I just remember how definite she was about it. She was not going to cook!

I will miss you Mama. You made my life fun and interesting Lol God bless you! I love you!

11th Voicemail, 12th Voicmeial – March 24, 2015

This is when she started to blow up my phone. I get busy during the day and can’t always answer my phone but I can shoot back a quick text. I was beginning to realize Meri is someone that needs a lot of attention. And if she doesn’t get it, she will do things to get your attention. It was fine except when I was busy. That’s when things would get a little frustrating for me. She has plenty of free time on her hands and at this point she was using it to contact me every few hours. I loved it. I loved hearing from her. I did the best I could to get back with her as soon as I could.

This was one of the many times I was over at her place. She is very well organized in her office. That’s where all of the pieces of My Sister Wives Closet are at. They do the orders, assemble the orders and get them ready for shipping. Meri and her assistant are the ones that do all of the orders.

11th Voicemail 3-24-2015 11:30am

Good morning. I just thought I’d try giving you a call. I know you wanted me to the other day and I didn’t so I thought I would try today. Anyway, I hope to talk to you soon. Hope you are doing okay. Okay. I’ll talk to you later. I love you, bye.

12th Voicemail 3-24-2015 3:56pm

Hey babe, sorry about that. I just got a couple of people come and not leave. Give me a call whenever you want. I’m completely available. So, alright, I’ll talk to you soon. Love you.


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10th Voicemail – March 20, 2015

At this point we are going strong. The relationship is starting to become more and more important to both of us. I am still struggling with the guilt of having sex with her. But it didn’t stop either one of us to continue having sex. At this point I believe it was 2 or 3 times a week. The reason I hung up was because I was trying to explain why I feel guilty and she kept telling me we aren’t doing anything wrong. It upset me because I knew that we were. She kept saying she is divorced and the marriage has been done for years. It was difficult for me to justify the way she was trying to.

10th Voicemail 3-20-2015 2:22am

Baby, where are you? What’s going on? I don’t know what happened. I don’t know why you are not answering. I don’t know you won’t text me back. I don’t know why you hung up on me. You don’t need to run from me okay baby, I’m here. I’m not going anywhere. I love you, call me back. Love you.