Greetings from Las Vegas. I have sad news for everyone. On Saturday night Lindsay took her mom into the hospital. She took a fall and said she couldn’t see for a few minutes. Just to be safe Ben and Lindsay took her into the ER to get checked out. Before then she was okay. Her health has been a concern and she has been sick for a few years. This was the first time she had a fall. We all began to pray that she would be okay. The early report was they would keep her overnight for observations and run some tests. By Sunday morning, things had gotten worse. She was bleeding in her brain and had suffered a ministroke. They were trying to figure out what to do with her already declined health issues. She was alert and aware of what was going on until the afternoon. That’s when Ben called us and told me to come now. I called Drew and told him to get ready to go I would pick him up. We got to the hospital and was able to spend a few hours with her. She was not conscious and not talking at all. We sat with everyone and prayed some more. On Sunday night Lindsay’s mom Helen passed away. She was 68 years old.
It was really hard to see her decline so fast. I had just seen her a few days before at the airport when I dropped Lindz off from our Cancun trip. I’m happy that we made it in time and we were all able to say goodbye, but still crushing. I have known Helen since I was 22 years old. She was like a second mom to me. She used to give me such hell every time I saw her. That was her sense of humor. If she wasn’t picking on you then she didn’t like you. Drew also has known her that long so it was hard for both of us.
Lindsay had already had long talks with her about what her wishes were. She wanted to be cremated and then taken back to Australia, where she was born. So Lindsay will be taking her home on Sunday with Ben. She is doing okay. She’s not fine, she is really upset and grieving. But she is doing a lot better than I thought. I think she knew it was going to happen soon so she was a little prepared. Ben is taking care of her and Drew and I are just making the phone calls and letting everyone know. We don’t know what to say or do but we are keeping busy and doing all we can.
God bless her and her family. I pray they are shown mercy at this time and they know how much life she had lived. Helen was a pistol. There is no other word that fits. She was funny, smart, and articulate. Then out of nowhere she would pop off with the most random things and you would look at her like she had two heads. I will miss her and I look forward to seeing her in Heaven someday.
The funeral will be on Monday in Sydney. There will be a memorial service sometime next month in Iowa for all of Helen’s American friends. She made a home in Iowa for the past 25 years and enjoyed all of her friends and neighbors there. I can’t go to Australia, I need to get back to my kids. Drew and I are staying until tomorrow night so I can get this office situated with Mark and Kim. My kids are back in Chicago with the nannies.
There is one story about Helen I want to share. It’s a story I tell a lot to all of our friends. Helen had come to visit Lindsay for a week. We were standing in the grocery store trying to figure out what groceries to buy. Then Helen said “Well I’m not cooking so don’t buy me anything. You can take me to all these fancy restaurants.” Then she turned around and walked out of the store. Lindsay and I were just looking at each other in disbelief. We put the cart up and walked out. There was Helen sitting in the wrong car trying to figure out the seatbelt Lol We both started laughing so hard and finally got her out of the car. It was pretty funny at the time. I just remember how definite she was about it. She was not going to cook!
I will miss you Mama. You made my life fun and interesting Lol God bless you! I love you!