Good to be home

  While I was in Pittsburgh the ladies all decided we are going to the lake house this weekend. I’m happy to stay home for a weekend. I’ve been traveling quite a bit the past month.

I got home to my wife waiting at the elevator. She kissed me like I had returned from war Lol And I loved it. Then she told me all that I had missed. Alex and Heston are both calling her mama now on a regular basis and she is very excited about it. i knew once she started they would pick up on it quick. She said it still surprises her but they are just being babies and they mimic everything we say over and over. I said it’s because you are their mama now. And it doesn’t matter she didn’t give birth to them. I didn’t uh sire them? Lol I don’t even know but biologically they aren’t mine either. She knows if she wants to adopt them she can do it after they are 18. That’s the agreement. I do not want to lose any custody at all of my boys in case of a divorce. I can’t be without them. I need them everyday. Even when I’m out-of-town I don’t like it. I Facetime with them but it’s not the same. I’m so happy that I do have a mama in their life. If things hadn’t turned out like they did I may not have adopted them at all. God’s plan was exactly what I wanted. I just had to keep faith and know what my calling would be. I am happy our open adoption has turned out so well.

Their biological father wants to meet them. He has asked for photos a few times in the past year. More towards Christmas. I sent him a few. He has no legal right to them he signed his rights away. He said his parents want to meet them and I said okay. We are going to meet up with them next month in Nebraska. He said he knows he did the right thing by signing them away. He wants to meet them before they will really know who he is. He wants a few photos taken of himself with them and for his parents too. Then he said he would like me to send him some photos at birthdays and Christmas only. That it will be uncomfortable for him after they reach about 4 years old. I told him we still have 3 years we can visit with him and I am going to tell them about him when they are old enough to understand or anytime they ask. The more information I have right from him the better. I bought an adoption book that has a lot of questions in it already. So I can sit with him and he can help me fill it out. That way I will know where his grandparents and parents were born and all of the questions I don’t know. Their birth mom already helped me fill it out. She told me to mail her the book and she filled out as much as she knew with her mom’s help. I got it back and loved reading it. I knew most of the answers but it also asks what’s her favorite food, music, toys when she was a kid. Things I don’t know. She said it was fun filling it out because this way they will know a lot about her. I told her I already read her answers to them a few times and will continue to do so. She is still a little shy about asking to see them but we have a good schedule planned out. I told her that her guy friend wants to meet the boys and she said it was good to hear. She said she’s glad to know she slept with a guy that is decent like that. I never thought of it that way. I asked if there would ever be a time I could get both of them together for some photos. I told her we could do it soon that way the boys would never remember it if that bothered her and she said she needs to think about it. She hasn’t seen or talked to him since the night of the party.

We had a long talk and I really enjoyed it. I try to keep her up to date on how my family is doing. She’s slowly starting to come around more and more about keeping in touch.

After I got off of the phone it was time for baths, hugs, snuggles, and reading to my boys until I bore them to sleep. Then it was time to talk to my wife about my trip. We had a quick chat and I got caught up on her cases. The most she can tell me anyway. Then we went to bed.

This morning I got up early and worked out. I made breakfast for everyone and got myself to work. Today will be fun. We get to go through all of this information. It will take a few days to decide.

I hope everyone has a great day today. It’s Thursday so we have today and tomorrow to get through. Then it’s the weekend. It’s supposed to rain today. Yuck. I better get started. I will update more later.

God loves you and I love ya’ll too! Thanks for reading my blog.

Polygamy is Illegal in Utah, again

  In all 50 states Polygamy is illegal. Utah decided they needed to recriminalize it and make sure polygamists went back to the holes they crawled out of. I don’t really understand polygamy. The information I gained from a real polygamist didn’t enlighten me as to why it’s a good practice. For me polygamy had its purpose back when the older men were left to settle in smaller, established towns and the younger men went off to explore and expand our country west. The older men would marry the younger women in multiples to populate the towns and establish legacy and child labor to help them grow their family and plantation like businesses. To me those days have long been over and anyone that continues the practice of polygamy only does so for their own selfish glorification.

I think polygamy today can work if it’s with like-minded people who truly believe in the religious importance of it. Young women in modern times are shunning the practice as soon as they can get out their parents door. That’s just a fact. The population of polygamists is slowly lessening and that’s a good thing for all the lawmakers, police, and certainly the local welfare offices.

Polygamists lie a lot. They are trained to do so growing up. How hard would that be to not see your father every day and night. To then have to say I don’t have a dad while you are going to school and if you are lucky enough to get to admit he’s your father the shame you are put on from the “outsiders” who don’t practice the same way.

I found polygamy demeaning to women and I really felt it was no longer about religion as they all claim. I feel it’s only about making 1 man feel powerful, wanted, needed, and glorified. The wives cater to him and do as he says. They defer to him in all major decisions and they refuse to think for themselves. This also puts them in a place to stay at home, milk off of the existing welfare, medicare, or local organizations to be able to feed and cloth their own kids. Yes they do work to make sure food and health is important as a community but is it really worth making you feel horrible about yourself for not getting a full-time husband? Is it worth all of the lifelong insecurities the women endure? Is it worth hiding from the law or running out-of-town like a chicken-shit? How painful would that be to your family? It’s a shame polygamists do not understand that their belief system is illegal and they can no longer hide in the shadows. The money they lie to get from each state is drying up. I have read a lot about how the state is now doing full background checks in Utah and Arizona to verify the “single” women are not purporting to be married to a polygamist man. What will the mother of these innocent children do when they can no longer live off of food stamps, supplements, or anything other than handouts from others? It’s seems to me like what started out to be a Free Speech fight turned into a You are ALL Banished and will soon be arrested conclusion. Was it worth it?

No. But will anyone ever stop polygamy from being a true destructive practice of freedom of religion? Not in my lifetime. The only hope we all have is to slowly watch polygamist families raise children who see a way out of it. That marry one man or one woman and refuse to raise their own children in such a way. The next generation and the one after that will be the real test. Watch in the  next decade how the number of polygamists dwindle and finally in 20 more years from now it virtually ceases to exist. I pray that all people in polygamy can leave if they want to. Life is better in the monogamist world as I see it. And I pray that the women that stay in it can find a way to tolerate the abuses and bad treatment they signed up for.

If you can help organizations with donations for people trying to escape polygamy please do. There are a lot of them starting up. I support 1 with my book proceeds. I also support a food bank that helps feed the women and children of polygamists that can not afford food. It’s not the children’s fault so I choose to help them. I know the money I donate is also feeding the men who clearly can’t afford to provide for all of their wives and children. It gives me a little piece of satisfaction that my book about my affair can help so many. It’s why I continue to give away every penny I earn. I don’t need the money and I have found a better use for it.

Polygamy is illegal. It should remain illegal and I do believe Utah is going to start prosecuting polygamists. They will find other crimes to add into it. I guess you can run but you can’t hide Lol

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Randita’s FTW

  Hello from Pittsburgh!

For lunch we are going to go eat at Randita’s vegan restaurant. This should be fun. I’m pretty sure no one else is vegan but I told them I’m sure they will find something they like there. We shall see. It’s me and 5 others. After lunch we are going to tour the building site they are pitching to me. They want to expand their dry cleaning business by manufacturing their own chemicals. They use all green and organic supplies which is amazing. It’s also a sustainable building they want to have. I’m all for that.

I’m excited to check it all out. The presentation yesterday was very well put together like the informational prospectus they sent with me last night. I read almost all of it and I think it’s a good idea to invest in this. I would be a 50% partner. And with my investment help I will own 50% of the new building and 50% of all expansions they add. I do not get any of the 3 dry cleaners they already have and run. That is actually very smart in case something happens they will always have those 3 to lean on.

I will take all of the info and go into work tomorrow with it. I have to talk things out, have our accounting department verify the numbers with the city and then we start looking at the contract. My legal department which consists of 4 lawyers are sharks and they take their sweet time pouring over every line. I like that but I’m also impatient. I suppose over the years they have saved me from making any huge mistakes and that’s why we have loyalty throughout the entire company.

I’m only interested in businesses were I can buy the building or at least buy half. If people are unwilling to include their building I don’t even take the meeting. There’s no point in doing business where I can stand to lose all of my money. I prefer to at least be able to get half of the building if things don’t work out. It’s very lucrative and easy. No real hard work on my part and a lot of traveling around the country. Being a pilot that’s the dream. Have a job where I have to fly different places and often. Except in the winter. I don’t fly when it’s snowy, icy, or in bad inclement weather. I’m smarter than that and I also know my limits. There’s no need for me to risk myself or anyone with me just to go somewhere. I won’t do it.

I hope today goes by fast. Yesterday went very fast. I plan to be home in time for supper. I have missed my wife next to me all night and my boys little faces to smooch on when they wake up. I miss being home.

This weekend I’m told the girls have all voted to go up to the Lake house because there  are some good sales at the malls in Wisconsin. So we will go there and check things out.

It’s going to grow, I swear

Last night after work my wife took me on a garden date. I had no idea what she meant but she literally meant a garden. As in she wants our landscaper to add a garden to the lake house and do all of the work on it. She wants to go out and help and also learn how to grow things from an expert. Mr. Wong is our landscaper and he is amazing. Very sweet guy he has had his company for years and really does a great job keeping our yard looking great. He always makes sure to clean up sticks or anything off of the beach before we arrive on Friday nights. He also emails us ideas he wants to try out. I pretty much have given him carte blanche to do anything he wants. I fully trust in his vision for our property.
We met him at the garden place? Center? I have no idea. It was this big tunnel like thing that led into a big terrarium. Inside were all kinds of flowers, fruits, and veggies plants starting to grow in these black plastic containers. We were supposed to pick out what we wanted him to plant when the weather turned better. I guess he has to order things far in advance so they can make sure they have enough. I didn’t even think about any of that. So we held hands and she basically pointed at what she wanted. She took off with him and I just started snapping pictures of what she picked out. It looks colorful. I think my boys will like that. And I asked him if he would put in a fence all the way around it to keep my dog out of there. Sam jr is a digger. He would go right in there and dig up everything. He buries his bones and we have found some crazy things he has buried in the yard. It’s pretty funny to see him out there trying to throw dirt up to get something in a hole. Then he uses his nose to push it all back in as soon as he deposits his treasure. I just don’t want my wife to get all of this stuff planted with Mr. Wong and my dog destroys it. That would not be cool at all.









They figured out a game plan. He had his Ipad and some app thing that showed a variation of our yard design and all he needed was to figure out where to put the garden for the most sun exposure. He has been wanting to do this for years but I always told him no. I’ve had this house for 9 years now and I’m good with having the lawn mowed. I said yes to whatever he wanted, gave him my card and he came back with my card and receipt. It really didn’t cost that much either. Most plants were about $3.50 each. I fell asleep last night trying to picture what the yard and garden will look like in a few months. He said he can’t plant anything just yet but as soon as he can then he will pick up our order and bring his team over for a full weekend of fun. Oh boy, have at it Lol I will enjoy watching you from the sidelines and really enjoy all of amazing things he grows for us to eat.
I’m getting ready to go to the airport. My flight leaves at 9:30 and I still need to put somethings in my bag. I’m going to Pittsburgh for 2 days. Wish me luck.
Have a great Tuesday everyone!

I wrote this one yesterday but didn’t get time to post it. Being out of town keeps me busy because the people I’m meeting with feel obligated to show me around and take me to meals. Very nice of them. I got back to the hotel around 1 this morning and am just getting around. Our next round of meetings start at 11am and will conclude around 5pm today. Then I can go home. I bought some souveniers for my family and can’t wait to sleep in my own bed tonight. I will update more later.

Ushering my way to a BBQ

  Church on Sunday was fun. We had a really late date night Saturday which kept us out until 1:30am. I told her this is going to hurt to wake up in the morning and she just kissed me good night and pretty much fell asleep right away.
We made it to Church on time and I had to usher the 1st and 2nd Mass services. She was down in the kitchen helping a few other ladies get the snacks, coffee, and stuff set up for after Mass. Our Church hosts so many great events it was finally our turn to help out on Sunday. I got to do the collection plate which I love to do. I rattle it and start eyeballing everyone to make sure they put in something. Doesn’t matter how much, it only matters they help our Church family out. The money goes for a lot of great services that we all can utilize at anytime we need. I made sure to slip in our envelope for the week. They already take out a direct deposit but we also add in some cash because we know it does go right back to our Church for things they need.
I like ushering because it’s easy and I get to smile at everyone. I also get to help the ones that needed a little assistance getting into their seat. That’s always fun. Everyone is so friendly and nice at our Church. My wife didn’t like it at first but she has finally come to at least sort of like my Church. I told her this is my Church family and they are very important to me. They have helped me get through a lot of things and even after work if I need a little help I stop in to pray before going home. She wondered where I went a few times a month to make me late getting home. Well now she knows. I told her all you had to do was ask. God has always been there for me. I try to appreciate and praise him daily. Most of my retweets are about news stuff or God. Mostly God though.
We left Church and met up with the boys and Heather nearby. They were pointing at me as soon as I walked in so I had to grab their little fingers and kiss all over their faces. They just laugh which is probably the best sound in the world. If you ever get around twins and hear the concert of laughs going it really is funny. We got them all packed up and headed home. It was about time for our bbq prep.
Sarah came over and helped me slice up veggies. My wife slathered the disgusting meat with her secret seasoning she bought, not made. She said it will be hit of the day and it was. She ordered it from some shop her mom goes to. Her dad has used it for years I guess. It smelled peppery, if that’s even a word. Not that my spelling or grammar would know better Lol
And soon my buddies started showing up to help set up and basically start munching on food. Everyone was told to bring a side dish or dessert. I was very surprised 2 of my single guy friends made stuff. I laughed and said did your mom make this for you and they both said nope. It was really good. They both put in a lot of effort and I appreciated it. I appreciated it even more when Cam decided to take over the grill. Smelling meat makes me want to hurl. That’s not very appetizing for a bbq.
The bbq was a lot of fun. Everyone ate everything. And I do mean everything which is fine by me. My nannies get a break because all of my friends want to hold and play with the boys. My dog loves it because he gets so many scraps. And my wife just loves hosting parties. She doesn’t cook or do any of the prep work but she looks beautiful and makes sure everyone has food and a drink. She is so sweet. I like her friends a lot. She’s warming up to my friends and doesn’t like it when we separate off and go talk in a different room from everyone. We just like to catch up and see what’s been going on since last we saw each other.
The beer and wine were flowing. I had my water and then it was time to play this ridiculous game. I know I look horrendous and I know I sound funny and I also know everyone laughs but my boys started really laughing when it was my turn so I made sure to amp it up a little. We all had fun and everyone helped clean up. That was very nice. They left around 8 so we could get the boys in the bath and ready for bed.
I like having parties at the condo. It’s nice at the house too but it’s more intimate and fun at the condo. The parking is always an issue but the hospital is right across the street which makes it easier for them to find a spot.
I am getting ready for a busy work week and I’m excited to see what some of my meetings will come out with. I have a few new ideas I want to share and see what everyone thinks. I also have only 1 out-of-town trip this week. It will be an overnight trip to Pittsburgh so we shall see how that goes. I already know I will miss my wife, boys, and my dog. I don’t like being away from them but the meeting will take 2 days to get through. I pray it all goes well.
Have a great work week guys! I hope you had a fun weekend too.

Snagcall and Private Number Buster

A while ago Lindsay signed me up for  to find out what the real troll names are. We’ve been using it for both phones for months and continue to, well, snag names Lol It’s very cool you get an Unknown number call which I never answer anyway because that’s what voicemail is for. That’s how she has found out their real names. People always asked how she knew. Well that’s their own faults, really. Who calls someone up for no other reason than to harass them? That’s what weirdos do. Very crazy stuff.

This is how we found out dumbass was prank calling us for months. She hasn’t done it in a while but we found out she has done it to a lot of trolls. Not very smart since she’s trying to get all legal on me Lol The mountains of proof we got in from her own former friends or whatever they were to her was shocking. I didn’t realize how many people hate her. I think it’s hilarious that they turned on her so quickly. It’s awesome that her own actions made it so that she had to erase or private all of the lying, defamatory videos she made about me, Lindsay, and Jackie. And now she tries to hide the info from her lawyer like they don’t exist. But they do. We have every single video and it’s uploaded to this blog. Lindsay made a directory full of them for dumbass’s lawyer and will be sending that to the lawyer and the police in her local area. The tables have turned and everything she does to people for her own twisted entertainment is about to come back at her. I hope they don’t take her baby away. But it looks like DHS is going to. We’ve sent them the voicemails she left on our phones, the screenshots and links to all of the things she has said about us online for the past 2 years as well as all of the ranty, crazy videos she made. She is a stalker and I’m glad to be rid of her. She’s a new level of crazy that I haven’t seen since Cheryl, the OG stalker.

So if you also get her crazy prank calls would love for you to email me proof and anything else you have. My lawyers are pursuing real legal action against her. She has done a lot that we were unaware of and when Lindsay hacked into her home network and started copying off of her Documents and Pictures folder its very scary how much shit she has on all of you trolls. And me. She has been doing this for a long time. And I’m glad Lindsay is the one that caught her. Everyone else just blew it off and didn’t go forward with the proof to the police. We have our own detective now in her local police force working with us and it’s gotten to the point they went to a judge yesterday to get a search warrant for her computer, cellphones, and laptop. She’s pretty much f***ed now. But she did that to herself. She has no part in my story. She’s an internet troll that latched onto something that is none of her business. Thank goodness the law is on my side and my lawyers know how to deal with this based on the whole Cheryl police drama from earlier. I want my babies, my wife, and my family and friends to feel safe. Now they will be. Check out Snagcall, guys. It’s very cool if you have people calling you and blocked their numbers, like 12 year olds. It really is childish. Grow up, trolls. Really.