In all 50 states Polygamy is illegal. Utah decided they needed to recriminalize it and make sure polygamists went back to the holes they crawled out of. I don’t really understand polygamy. The information I gained from a real polygamist didn’t enlighten me as to why it’s a good practice. For me polygamy had its purpose back when the older men were left to settle in smaller, established towns and the younger men went off to explore and expand our country west. The older men would marry the younger women in multiples to populate the towns and establish legacy and child labor to help them grow their family and plantation like businesses. To me those days have long been over and anyone that continues the practice of polygamy only does so for their own selfish glorification.
I think polygamy today can work if it’s with like-minded people who truly believe in the religious importance of it. Young women in modern times are shunning the practice as soon as they can get out their parents door. That’s just a fact. The population of polygamists is slowly lessening and that’s a good thing for all the lawmakers, police, and certainly the local welfare offices.
Polygamists lie a lot. They are trained to do so growing up. How hard would that be to not see your father every day and night. To then have to say I don’t have a dad while you are going to school and if you are lucky enough to get to admit he’s your father the shame you are put on from the “outsiders” who don’t practice the same way.
I found polygamy demeaning to women and I really felt it was no longer about religion as they all claim. I feel it’s only about making 1 man feel powerful, wanted, needed, and glorified. The wives cater to him and do as he says. They defer to him in all major decisions and they refuse to think for themselves. This also puts them in a place to stay at home, milk off of the existing welfare, medicare, or local organizations to be able to feed and cloth their own kids. Yes they do work to make sure food and health is important as a community but is it really worth making you feel horrible about yourself for not getting a full-time husband? Is it worth all of the lifelong insecurities the women endure? Is it worth hiding from the law or running out-of-town like a chicken-shit? How painful would that be to your family? It’s a shame polygamists do not understand that their belief system is illegal and they can no longer hide in the shadows. The money they lie to get from each state is drying up. I have read a lot about how the state is now doing full background checks in Utah and Arizona to verify the “single” women are not purporting to be married to a polygamist man. What will the mother of these innocent children do when they can no longer live off of food stamps, supplements, or anything other than handouts from others? It’s seems to me like what started out to be a Free Speech fight turned into a You are ALL Banished and will soon be arrested conclusion. Was it worth it?
No. But will anyone ever stop polygamy from being a true destructive practice of freedom of religion? Not in my lifetime. The only hope we all have is to slowly watch polygamist families raise children who see a way out of it. That marry one man or one woman and refuse to raise their own children in such a way. The next generation and the one after that will be the real test. Watch in the next decade how the number of polygamists dwindle and finally in 20 more years from now it virtually ceases to exist. I pray that all people in polygamy can leave if they want to. Life is better in the monogamist world as I see it. And I pray that the women that stay in it can find a way to tolerate the abuses and bad treatment they signed up for.
If you can help organizations with donations for people trying to escape polygamy please do. There are a lot of them starting up. I support 1 with my book proceeds. I also support a food bank that helps feed the women and children of polygamists that can not afford food. It’s not the children’s fault so I choose to help them. I know the money I donate is also feeding the men who clearly can’t afford to provide for all of their wives and children. It gives me a little piece of satisfaction that my book about my affair can help so many. It’s why I continue to give away every penny I earn. I don’t need the money and I have found a better use for it.
Polygamy is illegal. It should remain illegal and I do believe Utah is going to start prosecuting polygamists. They will find other crimes to add into it. I guess you can run but you can’t hide Lol
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Hello from Pittsburgh!
For lunch we are going to go eat at Randita’s vegan restaurant. This should be fun. I’m pretty sure no one else is vegan but I told them I’m sure they will find something they like there. We shall see. It’s me and 5 others. After lunch we are going to tour the building site they are pitching to me. They want to expand their dry cleaning business by manufacturing their own chemicals. They use all green and organic supplies which is amazing. It’s also a sustainable building they want to have. I’m all for that.
I’m excited to check it all out. The presentation yesterday was very well put together like the informational prospectus they sent with me last night. I read almost all of it and I think it’s a good idea to invest in this. I would be a 50% partner. And with my investment help I will own 50% of the new building and 50% of all expansions they add. I do not get any of the 3 dry cleaners they already have and run. That is actually very smart in case something happens they will always have those 3 to lean on.
I will take all of the info and go into work tomorrow with it. I have to talk things out, have our accounting department verify the numbers with the city and then we start looking at the contract. My legal department which consists of 4 lawyers are sharks and they take their sweet time pouring over every line. I like that but I’m also impatient. I suppose over the years they have saved me from making any huge mistakes and that’s why we have loyalty throughout the entire company.
I’m only interested in businesses were I can buy the building or at least buy half. If people are unwilling to include their building I don’t even take the meeting. There’s no point in doing business where I can stand to lose all of my money. I prefer to at least be able to get half of the building if things don’t work out. It’s very lucrative and easy. No real hard work on my part and a lot of traveling around the country. Being a pilot that’s the dream. Have a job where I have to fly different places and often. Except in the winter. I don’t fly when it’s snowy, icy, or in bad inclement weather. I’m smarter than that and I also know my limits. There’s no need for me to risk myself or anyone with me just to go somewhere. I won’t do it.
I hope today goes by fast. Yesterday went very fast. I plan to be home in time for supper. I have missed my wife next to me all night and my boys little faces to smooch on when they wake up. I miss being home.
This weekend I’m told the girls have all voted to go up to the Lake house because there are some good sales at the malls in Wisconsin. So we will go there and check things out.
Last night after work my wife took me on a garden date. I had no idea what she meant but she literally meant a garden. As in she wants our landscaper to add a garden to the lake house and do all of the work on it. She wants to go out and help and also learn how to grow things from an expert. Mr. Wong is our landscaper and he is amazing. Very sweet guy he has had his company for years and really does a great job keeping our yard looking great. He always makes sure to clean up sticks or anything off of the beach before we arrive on Friday nights. He also emails us ideas he wants to try out. I pretty much have given him carte blanche to do anything he wants. I fully trust in his vision for our property.
We met him at the garden place? Center? I have no idea. It was this big tunnel like thing that led into a big terrarium. Inside were all kinds of flowers, fruits, and veggies plants starting to grow in these black plastic containers. We were supposed to pick out what we wanted him to plant when the weather turned better. I guess he has to order things far in advance so they can make sure they have enough. I didn’t even think about any of that. So we held hands and she basically pointed at what she wanted. She took off with him and I just started snapping pictures of what she picked out. It looks colorful. I think my boys will like that. And I asked him if he would put in a fence all the way around it to keep my dog out of there. Sam jr is a digger. He would go right in there and dig up everything. He buries his bones and we have found some crazy things he has buried in the yard. It’s pretty funny to see him out there trying to throw dirt up to get something in a hole. Then he uses his nose to push it all back in as soon as he deposits his treasure. I just don’t want my wife to get all of this stuff planted with Mr. Wong and my dog destroys it. That would not be cool at all.
They figured out a game plan. He had his Ipad and some app thing that showed a variation of our yard design and all he needed was to figure out where to put the garden for the most sun exposure. He has been wanting to do this for years but I always told him no. I’ve had this house for 9 years now and I’m good with having the lawn mowed. I said yes to whatever he wanted, gave him my card and he came back with my card and receipt. It really didn’t cost that much either. Most plants were about $3.50 each. I fell asleep last night trying to picture what the yard and garden will look like in a few months. He said he can’t plant anything just yet but as soon as he can then he will pick up our order and bring his team over for a full weekend of fun. Oh boy, have at it Lol I will enjoy watching you from the sidelines and really enjoy all of amazing things he grows for us to eat.
I’m getting ready to go to the airport. My flight leaves at 9:30 and I still need to put somethings in my bag. I’m going to Pittsburgh for 2 days. Wish me luck.
Have a great Tuesday everyone!
I wrote this one yesterday but didn’t get time to post it. Being out of town keeps me busy because the people I’m meeting with feel obligated to show me around and take me to meals. Very nice of them. I got back to the hotel around 1 this morning and am just getting around. Our next round of meetings start at 11am and will conclude around 5pm today. Then I can go home. I bought some souveniers for my family and can’t wait to sleep in my own bed tonight. I will update more later.