Single dad of 4 beautiful kids, Heston & Alex my twin boys, and my daughters Peace and Sky. Dad of 2 angel babies in Heaven, Ryan and Talon. Divorced. Semi-retired app developer, business partner, Commercial Real estate investor, Chicago Bears & Chicago Cubs fan, vegan, lifelong Catholic, voting independent party member, guitar playing singer who owns a dog, and 2 cats. We live in beautiful Denver, Colorado. I started my first blog Janaury 1st, 2012. Official owner of and @NotBatmanYet Twitter account.

Rowboat Book Club #96

A Promised Land

by Barack Obama 

A riveting, deeply personal account of history in the making—from the president who inspired us to believe in the power of democracy.

In the stirring, highly anticipated first volume of his presidential memoirs, Barack Obama tells the story of his improbable odyssey from young man searching for his identity to leader of the free world, describing in strikingly personal detail both his political education and the landmark moments of the first term of his historic presidency—a time of dramatic transformation and turmoil.

Obama takes readers on a compelling journey from his earliest political aspirations to the pivotal Iowa caucus victory that demonstrated the power of grassroots activism to the watershed night of November 4, 2008, when he was elected 44th president of the United States, becoming the first African American to hold the nation’s highest office.

Reflecting on the presidency, he offers a unique and thoughtful exploration of both the awesome reach and the limits of presidential power, as well as singular insights into the dynamics of U.S. partisan politics and international diplomacy. Obama brings readers inside the Oval Office and the White House Situation Room, and to Moscow, Cairo, Beijing, and points beyond. We are privy to his thoughts as he assembles his cabinet, wrestles with a global financial crisis, takes the measure of Vladimir Putin, overcomes seemingly insurmountable odds to secure passage of the Affordable Care Act, clashes with generals about U.S. strategy in Afghanistan, tackles Wall Street reform, responds to the devastating Deepwater Horizon blowout, and authorizes Operation Neptune’s Spear, which leads to the death of Osama bin Laden.

A Promised Land is extraordinarily intimate and introspective—the story of one man’s bet with history, the faith of a community organizer tested on the world stage. Obama is candid about the balancing act of running for office as a Black American, bearing the expectations of a generation buoyed by messages of “hope and change,” and meeting the moral challenges of high-stakes decision-making. He is frank about the forces that opposed him at home and abroad, open about how living in the White House affected his wife and daughters, and unafraid to reveal self-doubt and disappointment. Yet he never wavers from his belief that inside the great, ongoing American experiment, progress is always possible.

This beautifully written and powerful book captures Barack Obama’s conviction that democracy is not a gift from on high but something founded on empathy and common understanding and built together, day by day. 

I told God my Xmas plans and he said HAHAHA Sam

Hi guys. I’m supposed to be on a sunny beach right now enjoying the sun, surf, and quiet life. Nope. I’m at home in Denver, it’s currently, let me look, 30 degrees. Three Oh. As in Oh Sh** it’s cold! The house is ready for Christmas, the food is being planned and menu edited. My Aunt and cousin are here. They got in really late last night or very early this morning. My Aunt has already made breakfast and asked why I didn’t go get a fresh haircut, I knew she was coming. Southern women know how to give it to you with no qualms at all. None. My nannies are packing up the rest of their things and cleaning out their fridge. Their house (My pool house) is my guesthouse and that’s where my guests are staying. Except Lindsay.

Lindsay has taken over the east part of the house. She’s even throwing East SIDDDEEEE gang signs at me when I’m getting frustrated with her. She is her usual self, crazy, smart mouth, and oh she is throwing in sassy just for some extra spice. I love her, she is my best friend and I don’t even know how to argue with her anymore. I think I’ve lost my edge, guys. I’m getting old.

She is here so we can spend quality time together and so we can make heavy decisions about work. Covid has impacted a lot of people, I am grateful that we have not completely lost every thing. We are holding on. I have a few other things in the works but for now we have no choice. Decisions must be made. It’s not fun. I feel awful but why hold on to a sinking ship when it may begin to take us down? That’s now what we signed up for. None of this is. The problem is at the end of every decision are employees with families who need income. I guess I was hopeful that the government would step up and prolong some of their resources but they have decided on nothing. I think that’s frustrating for everyone. We will survive, we will be okay, some of my businesses may be gone.

I pray every day that you guys are okay. I have finally gotten back to all of your messages and emails. Thank you all for keeping my family in your prayers and thoughts. That is very sweet of you. Things are going to be okay. Hold on a little longer. I love you all. I want to wish you all Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, etc. 2021 is going to be a big, beautiful year full of love and hope. Don’t give up. I promise things will turn around for all of us. God bless you guys and all of your families. Thank you so much for continuing to visit my blog and contact me. I have the best fans and friends. Take care guys! Love all your faces!

A December to Remember

Things at home have been very busy. I’ve spent the last few weeks getting my house set up from our extended stay in Hawaii. It was time to come home. I have a big day coming up next Monday and it will be easier because we are back in Denver.

We are still doing online school for the boys. Peace gets her ABC Mouse program an hour a day. She’s whipping right through all of the Pre-K and Kindergarten things. It’s kind of scary how smart she is. I mean, she already runs the house, as a 3 year old.

I’ve been neck deep in laundry, unpacking our boxes that came UPS, cooking, cleaning every surface. Oh yeah, and getting the house inside and out decorated for Christmas.

Work has been a chore. I’m still semi-retired. I’m losing money this year but we will survive. I’ve had to cut back on a lot of business things I had scheduled for this year. I have NOT traveled for work. That is crazy to me. I travel all year long in a non-Covid year. But we are okay.

The vaccine is coming. I realize it’s going to be months before my family will be allowed to get vaccinated but that’s okay. The kids do not leave the house unless we have a medical appointment or we go out for a drive. We are limiting any fast food, pizza to place we know follow all CDC guidelines. I mean, I’m not giving up Friday pizza night. It’s our family tradition. We are doing our best to stay healthy. No colds or flu bugs so far.

The good news. Wait, the GREAT NEWS, is that my 2 nannies, Lynn and her daughter Brenda, have found a house to buy. They had sold their house in Texas and decided Denver will be their forever home. They live in my guesthouse right now but have been looking for a while to find the right place for them. They found a ranch style 4 bed/3 bath home that just got revonated. There is still some painting to do but the rest of the house is brand new. It’s 10 minutes away from us so travel back and forth here will be easy. Sarah is also looking for a place. Switching from nanny to our full time teacher/helper is not making her in a rush to get out Lol I’ve tried.

The plan is to get everyone out in to their own places soon. Then it’s me and my 5 kids all alone. This was the plan for this summer but COVID said HAHAHA nope! I am looking forward to having my house and my kitchen all to myself. Sarah’s baby is so cute…and loud, and a baby, so she’s eating, sleeping, pooping all the time. I’m done with that phase. Sky is 1 and almost out of full time diapers. She’s doing her best to learn about the potty and I swear as soon as she started walking I knew we were all in trouble. This kid gets the zoomies and she’s GONE Lol I love them all. I want them all to myself. I just need help during school hours. I hope. We will see.

Hope you guys are doing well. Please wear your mask. Please enjoy or NOT enjoy the last few months of Trump. He’s been a pain in the a** for years. I’m glad he’s gone. The sooner we hit President Biden era, the better. Love you guys! Thanks for reading this.

A very Hawaiian Thanksgiving (Vegan/Regular)

We will be doing our Thanksgiving 2020 here in Waimanalo, Hawaii. It was a few weeks of discussion on what we all wanted to do. I think this will be a lot of fun. Tomorrow I will begin the prep work. We have divided things up this year since I have 4 female adults who will not want to eat a full vegan meal. I am going to slow cook their turkey for them because they like how I make it, they will be doing all of their own side dishes, appetizers, and desserts. I’m making a full vegan meal for myself and my kids. I have 1 kid who is opting out of a full vegan meal, so the trade off was I had to make a turkey Lol

I am very thankful my family has not contracted Covid thus far. We have done everything we can do to keep safe. I went to the grocery stores a few days ago and saw people are starting to panic buy again. I went online and ordered some things to make sure I have enough of the things we need.

We are a group of 10. It takes a lot of supplies and food to get this group through a month. It’s been collaborative and that’s the only thing that we have survived on. Working together for a common good is also teaching my kids how to step up in a time of crisis.

We are going to eat around 2pm because I have a lot of other things I want to do on Thanksgiving evening. A few surprises for the kids but mostly relaxing. I’m going to be so worn out, by Sunday I will be melted into bed and no one will wake me up. I have my food lists, I have my grandma and mom’s recipes. I think I’m ready. I’m going with a roasted Tofurkey but I’m also doing Mushroom wellingtons. The kids love those. They are a pain in the a** to make but it’s a special occasion so I don’t mind. It’s going to be 2 days of cooking. I hope my lower back can hold up. If I stand for 4 or 5 hours at a time and forget to rest in between it tends to lock up on me.

We took our Thanksgiving family photos yesterday. We have some very awesome ones. We did the whole group with my tripod and then we did different patterns of people. My face hurts from smiling.

Things are going very well. Calm. The kids are out of school for this week and we are just playing and hanging out. I told them to enjoy the pool as much as possible. And then 4 days of sporadic rain came in Lol We are having so much fun here. I love Hawaii. It’s really become our salvation.

I hope everyone has a wonderful Thanksgiving. I hope you all stay safe with your family and loved ones. You are grown adults, you can decide how to handle this year. Remember God’s blessings as you sit together and eat and don’t forget to pray for everyone struggling this year. I would love to go to a shelter and volunteer to feed the homeless, but not this year. I can’t risk my health or my kids’ health. Our Family Foundation is hosting free food giveaway events through tonight. So far it’s been very successful. It’s not at all like our past years, but we did the best we could. I pray for every family that came to pick up their Thanksgiving boxes. I pray they still have enough to eat after Thursday.

Thank you all for coming to my blog or social media accounts. I love you all. My kids are so blessed to have a healthy, happy, home this year. I always think of my departed family and friends. I wish they were here. God bless you all! Enjoy your Thanksgiving!

Rowboat Book Club #95

The Queen of Nothing

(The Folk of the Air #3)

by Holly Black

Power is much easier to acquire than it is to hold on to. Jude learned that lesson when she released her control over the wicked king, Cardan, in exchange for immeasurable power.

Now, as the exiled mortal Queen of Faerie, Jude is left reeling from Cardan’s betrayal. She bides her time, determined to reclaim everything he took from her. Opportunity arrives in the form of her deceptive twin sister, Taryn, whose mortal life is in peril.

Jude must risk venturing back into the treacherous Faerie Court, and confront her lingering feelings for Cardan, if she wishes to save her sister. But Elfhame is not as she left it. War is brewing. As Jude slips deep within enemy lines, she becomes ensnared in the conflict’s bloody politics.

And when a terrible curse is unleashed, panic spreads throughout the land, forcing her to choose between her ambition and her humanity….

We have a new President

I am happy to report that Joe Biden won the Presidential election. I am very happy to have worked on his campaign in a very small part. The past 3 months every weekend I was phone banking for him, giving information on how people could register, check their ballot, request an absentee ballot or whatever info they needed. It was a lot of talking on the phone, which is not my favorite thing. I’m happy. I cried when it hit the news. We celebrated all weekend. It’s history making because now we have our first woman in the White House, our Vice President, Kamala Harris. I am so proud. This is exactly what our country needed.

I’m sorry that Trump lost because I know some of my readers are Trump people. It was close. You guys put up a hell of a campaign. But treating people like sh** will never get you ahead in life. That’s who Trump is. Now he gets to live in obscurity forever. 1 term, GET OUT! And I mean it, we all want him OUT NOW. He’s a mess.

Halloween mess is finally all cleaned up. On to our Thanksgiving plans. We are talking about going home before Christmas. I want the girls to spend it with their families. I want to actually be in my house for a holiday. That would be nice. It is solely dependent on how COVID is doing in Denver. We have not gotten sick here with it. We are safe. Why would I pull my kids from a safe haven to go back home to who knows what? I want to go, but I also want to stay alive.

Things are great. My girlfriend and I are finally on the same page on pretty much everything. It’s nice. We have had big discussions. We have waited for the damn Canadian/US border to open back up. We even tried to come up with what lie would get me across the border Lol Nothing will pass. And we don’t want to lie to get me over there, or have to do all the Hail Marys/Our Fathers for punishment. We just miss each other. It’s been too long. We are doing out best though.

Kids are good, adults are good. I really wish I had fun things to report in but we have hit that routine part of the year. School, playtime, eat. Sleep, school, playtime, eat. That’s about it. I LOVE IT! I love things being simple with no drama. Sarah’s baby is getting so big. She has the cutest smile and melts my heart every time she laughs. Sky is getting so big. Peace is finally wanting to pal around with her more. She thinks her sister is her baby. It’s funny. Pets are good. Kaia is getting HUGE. She weighs half a pound less than Amanda now. She’s going to be a panther Lol It’s crazy.

Hope you guys are well. We are all doing fine. Love you guys, thanks for coming to read my blog. This has been my busiest year for visitors on my blog. I’m not sure where I’m linked at but whoever linked my blog to their website(s), thank you! I’m pushing 4.1 million visitors. It’s INSANE!

Do NOT ORDER Christmas stuff yet!

Guys, we all survived Halloween 2020. I don’t know how. Already the girls want to start order Christmas decorations. Nope! I put my foot down. We will get through Veterans Day, we will do Thanksgiving. First! I am not going to be looking at tinsel and smell pine cone candles this early. I told them the day after T-Day, go for it. I want to focus on one holiday at a time. It’s bad enough we aren’t even home in Denver, still. Let us all take our time to enjoy each day. This Covid is not slowing down, not going away like everyone has said.

Speaking of going away Lol Trump will be voted out of office tomorrow. I am proud to say I have done my part. A very, very, small part but I finished my last weekend of phone banking for Joe Biden campaign. It was hard to find the hours to do it but I’m thankful my supportive nannies and neighbor helped watch the kids on the weekends. It was important to me. I wanted to do more. I would have been out stumping for him and her, but I can’t do that with Covid. We have all managed to stay healthy so far. None of us have gotten it. It scares me so much I limit how much and when the girls go out of the house. Monday to Thursday, do your thing. Friday to Sunday, no one leaves. That has worked. They have to wear masks. If someone doesn’t then the others crab at them until they put it on. It works. MASKS WORK! Let me say that again. MASKS WORK.

We all had a great Halloween. I will add all of our photos and videos to my Instagram. Now listen guys, I do see all of your friend requests. I am going to get to those I swear. I’m still trying to figure Instagram out. I will watch the tutorial videos today and then go from there. This week, everyone will be added that I know, and you guys can get a glimpse into my Hawaiian life. It’s actually pretty cool.

I hope you all had lots of candy and fun. I hope you all stayed safe. Let’s get ready to honor our beloved Veterans. They mean so much to our country, proud to have served amongst this esteemed group.

It’s that Time of Year again, Unbanning the Trolls

I used to unban the trolls from my blog once a month. Lindsay kept arguing to make it longer. I am pretty sure we have had them all banned since the new compatible version of the Ban plugin came out earlier this year. I’m feeling a little festive this year and will get in the holiday spirit a little earlier. The compromise is that I have to post the nasty comments/emails the trolls will now leave on my blog Lol They are like little cockroaches, they never go away.

Enjoy trolls! Well, and all of my actual fans and family/friends. I love you guys. I will do a big update soon. Things are crazy busy with school and with decorating for our giant Halloween event for the kids.