Single dad of 4 beautiful kids, Heston & Alex my twin boys, and my daughters Peace and Sky. Dad of 2 angel babies in Heaven, Ryan and Talon. Divorced. Semi-retired app developer, business partner, Commercial Real estate investor, Chicago Bears & Chicago Cubs fan, vegan, lifelong Catholic, voting independent party member, guitar playing singer who owns a dog, and 2 cats. We live in beautiful Denver, Colorado. I started my first blog Janaury 1st, 2012. Official owner of NotBatmanYet.com and @NotBatmanYet Twitter account.

Rowboat Book Club #105

Beyond the Tides (Prince Edward Island Shores, #1)

by Liz Johnson 

When Meg Whitaker’s father decides to sell the family’s lobster-fishing business to her high school nemesis, she sets out to prove she should inherit it instead. Though she’s never had any interest in running the small fleet–or even getting on a boat due to her persistent seasickness–she can’t stand to see Oliver Ross take over. Not when he ruined her dreams for a science scholarship and an Ivy League education ten years ago.

Oliver isn’t proud of what he did back then. Angry and broken by his father walking out on his family, he lashed out at Meg–an innocent bystander. But owning a respected fishing fleet on Prince Edward Island is the opportunity of a lifetime, and he’s not about to walk away just because Meg wants him to.

Meg’s father has the perfect solution: Oliver and Meg must work the business together, and at the end of the season, he’ll decide who gets it. Along the way, they may discover that their stories are more similar than they thought . . . and their dreams aren’t what they expected.

Bestselling author Liz Johnson invites you back to Prince Edward Island for a brand-new series about family, forgiveness, and the kind of love that heals all wounds.

My Faith is stronger than your doubts

Oh I caught this Spirit today! This week’s devotional message around my house is Lean on God. We read “My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from Him. He is my rock and my salvation; He is my fortress, I will never be shaken” Psalm 62:1-2

Well the last part of that is not true. I have been shaken in my life. I have cussed out God in my 2 times of ultimate despair. I have asked for forgiveness and understanding and I pray to God I am never shaken again. This is the message and the truth I want my kids to know. We all have moments in our life that we have lost our trust in God. It never lasts long and if it starts to stretch out, it will be time to heal and pray. They have had some great questions this week. I love it.

“What if God doesn’t want me to live a long happy life that you keep promising me?” Oooohhhh, that’s deep and scary.


“What if I wake up and I don’t think God exists” He does, I will remind you, and that is part of your spiritual path. We all walk our own way to God’s Will. Our life and story have been laid out for us already. I have wandered from my Faith. It has been very few weeks but there have been times I did not believe. I can say today and for many years, my Faith has only gotten stronger and I’m very happy to know that no matter what my struggles, God always loves me.

I love hearing my own children ask the same questions I asked. But my kids are a lot smarter than I was at their ages. They know God loves them. They know my Faith is a lot stronger than any of their doubts. If I can’t answer the questions they have we always look in our Bibles for guidance. I wanted my kids to stay in Catholic school but I can’t support the Denver Catholic school system. It’s a hot mess. We do our religion class at home. After supper we do half hour of a foreign language and then half hour of religion. We have done that since they were around 4 years old and up. I love knowing they question things in life and they actively seek the answer. I’m trying my best to put a solid foundation of faith and love. When they go out into the world without me, I will know I gave them all I had. And God will give them the rest.

I love God. I know God exists in my life. I also love talking to others who either don’t believe or they have different religious views. Send me a DM with your thoughts or an email. I love hearing from you guys! God loves you and I love you too!

M R Aight

I usually write these blog posts while listening to music. Today, I’m listening to my daughter and Sarah’s daughter babbling on about kittens. It’s cute. I had an MRI on my knee. I have ripped a ligament from the bone. My MCL is hanging on by a thumb size. It’s painful and delaying surgery was the bad news I have been dealing with. I’m 6 months out from them rescheduling it. I pray they get a cancellation and I get in sooner. For now they shot gel into it, and I’m supposed to be a good boy and stop doing stupid things to reinjure it. I’m not going to lie guys, it hurts. I’m going to do what the doctors tell me to do and wait for my turn to get it fixed.

School is going well. So far, none of my kids have gotten kicked out of class. I can’t say that for my girlfriend’s kids who are doing virtual school in Canada. I might want to add, they have been booted twice Lol Alex had an incident where a kid shoved him and he bonked his knee into a sharp edge and cut his leg a little. I did go get him and bring him home for the rest of that day. School is full steam ahead. All 4 of my kids love it and the best part, they are finally making some friends. Covid has prevented all of us from meeting new people. I’ve lived here 2 years and you would think I would have a ton of friends by now. Nope. I’m working on it now. Finally. I like hearing about what classmates did what or said this. My twins actually like being split up into separate classrooms. It’s all working out and I couldn’t be happier. It’s the most normal thing we have going on.

The entire backyard has become our private park area. We have summered it so hard I don’t know where to store allof our outdoor toys at. It’s getting that time of the year when it’s almost time to call it a day on the swimming pool. I’m going to drain my pool. I want to make sure next spring when we open it back up that there are no cracks from all of the construction mess I had going on. I think I see 2 but I’m not really sure. Either way I scheduled the pool company to come next weekend.

This weekend we are all flying to Chicago. I finally bought a Brownstone and it’s time to check it out. This has been a few months journey. I outgrew my downtown condo. It used to work just fine. I have a lot of kids. We are going to do out best to fix it up so everyone is comfortable. I’m really excited to see it. I don’t think we will need to double up the kids. If they want to, I will get bunk beds and get their bedrooms filled up with the basics. What I learned the last few years is, whatever clothes you leave in your “vacation home” won’t fit at all when you arrive back to it after a year away. I had a pile to donate and now I think bringing in our clothes is the way to go. At least until my kids are all done growing. I’m excited to see my friends. I’m really excited to show my new place to Lindsay and Cam. I’m going to get with my interior designer and start coming up with a plan. I don’t want to renovate. I want to paint the walls and get all of my furniture moved in from my condo. Once that is done I hope to fill it up with whatever we may need. It’s going to be fun. I think we will renovate over the winter if we need to. I refuse to fly my plan in snow and ice. In fact, as I’ve gotten older, I really don’t like flying anywhere near bad weather. I’ve always put it in my mind that I will stop flying privately when I hit 50. I don’t want my cognitive skills to diminish to a point I refuse to admit it. Commercial airlines are getting better and if I really insist, I can hire a private jet. It’s really not as expensive as people think. It’s important to me we are all safe. I trust my kills. I trust my planes. I just want to make sure we are okay.

My house is finally done. I’m done redoing things, fixing things. It’s done. I had all of this year in it, finally, and realized I need to get rid of some of my oversized, ridiculous furniture. I’m starting to see I have too much stuff. I have donated what I could. Covid shut down all donations for the past year. Now they are opened back up and I hauled over 3 truck loads of things. I always believe in donating old clothes as they are replaced. I know as a kid when we hit hard financial times the Church garage sales and thrift stores helped my family get what we needed.

I’m entering that part of my life where things are always, well….fine. No big drama. Nothing holding me back from doing what I want to do. I think it’s peaceful. Finally. My girlfriend still tells me about once a week to behave. I just laugh and say Who Me??? Things are calm. I love it. I love just being able to live and breathe. I’m so thankful for all of God’s blessings. I appreciate the things I have accomplished and worked hard for. Is this the part of early retirement where I need to pick a hobby? I like golf but I really just want to hang out with my kids. I love being a dad. I feel it is a calling in my life. I’m finally getting good at it. When we merge both of our families, my girlfriend has told me she knows we will have some issues at first but she can’t wait for her kids to see that I want to be with them, that I want to be their step-dad. I really do. I can’t wait for us to start our lives together. We have to wait a little longer for Covid to calm down. That’s the hardest part.

I hope all of you are okay and doing well. I will start blogging more. My podcast schedule changed as soon as the kids got back in school and Jessica wants to do them in the evenings or weekends. It’s been an adjustment but it’s finally smoothing out. I will get back to all of your comments, messages, and emails this weekend. There’s going to be a lot of sitting around just getting decisions made. I know my nannies will be very opinionated on how they want their rooms and the kids rooms set up. I just get to sit back and wait for someone to say my name. Have a wonderful weekend. Love you guys!

A little up Date

My knee surgery date got cancelled because of COVID, that’s fun. I get to ice my knee when it gets bad and spread on the Icy Hot. I mean, this can’t get any worse, right?

4 of my 5 pack are in school all day. That leaves me with baby Sky and baby Rain all day. Sarah does not quality to put her daughter in daycare at her new work yet. She has to be there 6 months because it’s one of those extra benefits they offer once you establish yourself. I told her yes we will watch the baby. We’ve been with her since she was a week old anyway. And this will be our last full time babysitting with her I wan to enjoy it. She is such a sweet little girl. Sarah is trying to get all of her life out of my house, which I appreciate. She LOVES her new job. It is her dream job. She has spent so much time getting her life ready for her career I’m proud to see it finally happen. Her parents are thinking about selling their house in a few months to be closer to their only grandchild. Sarah’s sister has had the same boyfriend for years, no engagement, no kids. They don’t want to miss anything and they both recently retired so this will be a big move. I will love having them nearby. I have known Sarah’s mom since I was 3 years old. We were raised together because her mom was my nanny. And Ray and I get along great. We are always getting in trouble together. I love this idea.

My kids love their teachers, love school, hate wearing a mask. I told them that’s the only way we can keep them healthy. It was a lot of discussion all summer to make sure they do understand how important it is. I told them if they do not keep it on every day I have to pull them from school and they will do virtual class again. None of them want that, I don’t blame them.

This is the year they are FINALLY making friends. I’m happy to see that and I hope to be able to host a few swim parties soon. We are running out of the hot weather. We all know it’s going to snow in Denver next month Lol It always does.

I am starting to get and about a little more. I hope I start making friends too. It’s easy to see who takes COVID serious by still wearing a mask. Those are the kind of people I would love to be friends with.

Things are busy. I’m doing my best to get these kids into a routine. We are going to do some weekend trips back to Chicago. I’m still trying to find a new condo. The 2 I have put a bid on got outbid and I wasn’t willing to go up higher. My account said $6 to $8 million. Once we move we can fix up my downtown condo that’s too small and sell it. That will recoup some of what I spent on the new one.

Life is great. My girlfriend and I are getting along much better. We have been off and on for 2 and a half years. We go great for months and then we break up for a week or 2. I think we are finally maturing into the relationship. As soon as I can get up to her area safely, without it being a hotspot for COVID, we will most likely get engaged. We are older, there’s a lot of moving parts to getting her and her kids moved here. But her and her kids need to get away from her ex and his family, too many issues going on. It’s going to be a new chapter for both of us. I can’t wait.

Hope everyone is enjoying the last bit of summer. Get outside and enjoy it. Love you guys!

Rowboat Book Club #104

40 Hours

by Kathrin Lange 

Somewhere in Berlin, a man is being crucified. One detective has 40 hours to find him, or thousands will die…

Faris Iskander, an Egyptian-born German national, is a detective on enforced leave when he receives a video of a man being crucified. The first in a series of religiously fuelled attacks, Faris must act quickly to save the man and stop his aggressors. If he fails, thousands of people in Berlin will die in pre-coordinated explosions.

But this case is especially complicated for Faris, who was placed on suspension after avenging a racial attack. Forced to face his own demons, can Faris uncover the truth in time to save lives and prevent catastrophe? Or will his personal involvement compromise his mission?

Newly-translated from the German and set against the cultural tumult of twenty-first century Berlin, Forty Hours is a fast-paced, intelligent crime thriller that explores ideas of guilt, redemption, identity and belonging. It also offers English-speaking readers a fascinating glimpse into the realities of life and policing in the German capital, and will please all who enjoy high quality police procedurals and crime stories.

2 Birthdays and a Miami Beach week

It’s hard to schedule things for this time of year because I have 2 birthdays 2 weeks apart.

Peace’s birthday was small and fun. She loved it. She cried when she saw the whole set up. I told her that the virus was still out there and we couldn’t have a big blowout. She was upset at first until she saw her party. I had Sarah decorate it with her Brazilian friend and it came out perfect. We had a pool party with small kids carnival games, we had presents, cake and ice cream. I mean, my family and friends always take care of my kids on their birthdays. They get way too much stuff but I use that as a time to get rid of the old toys to replace them with all the new stuff. We clean things up and donate what we can. It’s very important. She loved it, I asked her at bedtime what her favorite part was and she said the part where you said it wouldn’t be a big party and it was the hugest party ever Lol I think 4 years with me has made her dream big, and want for big things. I love it.

Now we ride out this week at home and continue to look online for a new Chicago house. We are going to leave on Friday to fly down to Miami Beach, Florida. We will be staying for a week. My kids wanted one last “big trip” before they start school. I just want out of Denver, its too hot here. I can’t jump in the Ocean whenever I want here.

And then on Friday evening we will be throwing Sky’s birthday party. She’s turning 2. OMG. My baby is growing up too fast. She is going with a Peppa Pig party. That will be easy. She loves Peppa Pig.

After 2 years of struggling and dealing with things I have no more diapers to change. I am officially off diaper duty! And FYI I refuse to change another diaper the rest of my life Lol I’ve done my time. It’s someone else’s turn. Sky is potty training, walking, talking. She’s her own little person now. It’s awesome. I’m glad I’m finally out of the baby/toddler phase. It was too much.

I hope to relax and catch up on sleep on our Miami Beach week. I need it. I’m so tired all of the time lately. I don’t know what’s going on. I just know that life is a blessing and I’m trying to enjoy everything I can.

Love you guys, stay in the nice cool breeze inside if you can. It’s too hot outside! Love you guys!

Rowboat Book Club #103

Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness

by Richard H. ThalerCass R. Sunstein

Every day we make choices—about what to buy or eat, about financial investments or our children’s health and education, even about the causes we champion or the planet itself. Unfortunately, we often choose poorly. Nudge is about how we make these choices and how we can make better ones. Using dozens of eye-opening examples and drawing on decades of behavioral science research, Nobel Prize winner Richard H. Thaler and Harvard Law School professor Cass R. Sunstein show that no choice is ever presented to us in a neutral way, and that we are all susceptible to biases that can lead us to make bad decisions. But by knowing how people think, we can use sensible “choice architecture” to nudge people toward the best decisions for ourselves, our families, and our society, without restricting our freedom of choice.