Single dad of 4 beautiful kids, Heston & Alex my twin boys, and my daughters Peace and Sky. Dad of 2 angel babies in Heaven, Ryan and Talon. Divorced. Semi-retired app developer, business partner, Commercial Real estate investor, Chicago Bears & Chicago Cubs fan, vegan, lifelong Catholic, voting independent party member, guitar playing singer who owns a dog, and 2 cats. We live in beautiful Denver, Colorado. I started my first blog Janaury 1st, 2012. Official owner of NotBatmanYet.com and @NotBatmanYet Twitter account.

Sunday is always Family Day

Boy do I have some updates to share. A lot has been going on, I have been extra busy and now I can finally tell you guys what’s been going on.

Brenda’s mom Lynn moved in for a few weeks to help us with the kids until my former nanny, Sarah, figured out what she was going to do. Sarah had her baby, a beautiful little girl named Rain. She does not know who the father of her baby is yet, but the only 2 guys that could be the dad have already been tested for DNA. The results will be ready in a few weeks. That’s a little nerve wrecking for Sarah. She loves being a mom. It was a huge surprise to all of us but I’m very happy for her. She will be a fantastic mom, she has been a surrogate mom to my kids and I have seen her motherly side. Sarah decided she wanted to move back to Denver. She enlisted her 2 best friends in Dallas and rented a huge SUV to make the trip as comfortable as possible. They left early yesterday morning and got her last night. Sarah will always be welcome with us. I have told her that for years. It was too hard for her to stay at her parents house. She said she wants her own life. She is not coming back here to be our nanny again. She wants to live in the guest house for a few months until she can figure out where to move to in Denver. She loves it here. She is FINALLY going to get a nursing job. She wants to teach nursing at the community college level which I think is great. So she is here, with her baby, and we are leaving her alone. The kids missed her soooooo much. The boys were crying and Peace kept grabbing her by the leg Lol It was cute. She is going to get her baby in the nursery and settled into a routine before she starts hanging out in our house more. She said she needs to be taken care of right now. I told her we will all pitch in to cook, clean, babysit while she showers or rest. It’s going to take a village. It always does.

My aunt is here. She decided to stay until next Saturday morning. She needed a break. She just got through a divorce and wanted to get away. I don’t blame her. My Uncle can be a little difficult to deal with. I pray they both resolve the lingering issues soon and then leave each other alone for a while. They need it.

And we just had a big family meeting. The plan we came up with may or may not work out. Here is what we are going to try to do.

Brenda and Lynn will be going home on Saturday morning. I am so appreciative of both of them for helping me out. They will be greatly missed. Sarah is staying a few months. When she can, she will pitch in and help me with the kids but I am not relying on her. I am finally going to be on my own with my kids. It was the plan since last year. I gave everyone months and months of notice. It is going to be hard. I want to do it. I quit my job and went part time to raise my kids. It’s that important to me. I have always wanted to be a dad. It took a long time for me to get here and now I want to do it.

I have a beautiful girlfriend who loves kids, she’s a teacher. We are kind of rekindling things after a huge breakup months ago. We are trying and it’s going very well. I know as soon as the borders open up I will travel up there and we can start all over again. I want a mom for my kids but more importantly I want a life partner. I want to be married again. We are going to take our time in building our relationship and I look forward to seeing how it goes. This is a huge step for me. I don’t date casually. I always have intention of things going into a serious relationship. I think I have finally met my match. I thought my ex-wife was it, but I realized after a year we were not on the same page in life. This time I have taken a LONG TIME to figure out what I need and want for myself and the kids. It’s the right time. I’m ready to start a big relationship. And I want it with her. I am happy. I am happier than I have been in a long time. Everyone is noticing it and commenting. I’m glad. I need all the support I can get, I do not have the best track record with women Lol

So how are you guys doing? We have the pool open already. The kids love it. They are swimming twice a day. It’s good to see how happy they are in the water. The swimming lessons they have all taken paid off. I’m doing the best I can to keep teaching them. I want them to be safe and I need to know they can get themselves out of trouble in the water if anything ever happens to them. Swimming to me is a life necessity. I think everyone needs to learn the basics.

We are playing a lot of baseball in the backyard. Guess who the best base runner is? Peace Lol She has picked it all up very fast. My goodness is my daughter smart. We are still doing a summer school program. It’s going well. I print off their worksheets in the morning. We spend about an hour each day on it and they like it. Education is key and my kids will go to college. I do not want them living life without a great education. That is priority #1. It’s giving us all a lot of bonding time and I really enjoy watching them figure things out.

Everyone is doing well. I hope you all are too. I have been fighting a bad headache all day. I think a house full of people, so much cooking, cleaning, and staying active finally caught up with me today. I crashed and burned. I’m feeling better now with 2 hot showers. My allergies are getting better but these migraines are impossible to deal with.

Take care of yourselves guys. Wear the damn mask. It’s only for a little more time, they will find a vaccine and we can be safe once again. Social distance until your local area says it’s okay. Please be aware there are guys like me out there trying to protect his kids at home from this crap. You wearing a mask means I have a less chance of contracting it and dragging it out home. I always wear a mask and gloves. I will until this whole thing is over with.

I will update more this week! Love you guys!

Rowboat Book Club Book #89

Make Your Bed: Little Things That Can Change Your Life…And Maybe the World

by
Admiral William H. McRaven

If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed.

On May 17, 2014, Admiral William H. McRaven addressed the graduating class of the University of Texas at Austin on their Commencement day. Taking inspiration from the university’s slogan, “What starts here changes the world,” he shared the ten principles he learned during Navy Seal training that helped him overcome challenges not only in his training and long Naval career but also throughout his life; and he explained how anyone can use these basic lessons to change themselves-and the world-for the better.

Back home in Denver

It’s good to be home. We have been home and enjoying getting our life back on track. Can we even say normal? This whole year is not normal. I’m doing the best I can to shield my kids from too much information on this global pandemic. They know something big is going on, however, they are not sure what it really means. That’s how I’m keeping it for now.

My kids are very happy to be back home. They are really enjoying being home and playing in their rooms with their own toys. I missed my bed. It’s stupid but I missed my own bed.

We began to transplant some of the stuff we planted in Hawaii. I had things in orange containers, but the other stuff had to stay. Mads said he is going to take care of it. I hope they flourish. The kids and I have begun our gardening here, we picked a spot that would be sunny but not full on sun the entire year. I think we have a great start. When I can I will go get more things to plant but for now it is not essential so I’m not even worrying about it. Remember, everything I have started out as seeds. I don’t want plant starters because for me that’s cheating. I want to grow the entire way through.

The other day my former nanny Sarah, had her baby girl! She is healthy, Sarah is healthy, everyone is finally at home at Sarah’s parents’ home and enjoying the sweet little bundle. Sarah has turned in the DNA for testing and in a few weeks she will know who the father of her kid is. It’s a little up in the air. It’s either David, her ex-boyfriend, or it’s the random party hook-up guy. I’m very happy to know that Sarah and her baby made it through everything and they got the heck into safety as soon as possible. She has a beautiful name and even better middle name. And she missed Lindsay’s birthday by 1 day. Lindsay told her she better push hard, she wasn’t sharing her birthday Lol

Happy Birthday to Lindsay, this past Sunday was the celebration of the Nascar Experience that Drew and I got her. She loves it. She is going to go as soon as they can schedule it. It may be next year. I’m happy she’s happy. We didn’t know what to get her at all. I’m glad she’s staying in Chicago and not going out. She’s working from home and doing the best she can to help our businesses survive.

That’s about it guys. Not much happening. I love being home. I’m excited to get into our summer months. I am opening our pool up this week. It’s a heated pool so come on over if you live in Denver Lol The pool and the hot tub are all hooked into each other so it’s a nice experience. The view from my backyard is dreamy, I can’t wait for our garden to grow and we get to enjoy the full beauty of my home. I’m so blessed.

Stay safe guys. I love you! I hope you are okay. I will start getting back to your messages this week finally. Have a great week!