Single dad of 4 beautiful kids, Heston & Alex my twin boys, and my daughters Peace and Sky. Dad of 2 angel babies in Heaven, Ryan and Talon. Divorced. Semi-retired app developer, business partner, Commercial Real estate investor, Chicago Bears & Chicago Cubs fan, vegan, lifelong Catholic, voting independent party member, guitar playing singer who owns a dog, and 2 cats. We live in beautiful Denver, Colorado. I started my first blog Janaury 1st, 2012. Official owner of and @NotBatmanYet Twitter account.

1st Voicemail, 2nd Voicemail, 3rd Voicemail – March 10, 2015

Meri’s brother passed away early in the morning. She told me via text that woke me up. Then I called her right away and we talked for a few minutes.

This was a hard day for Meri. I tried to say the right things but I didn’t know what to say at all. As soon as she told me I called her. I prayed for her and her family. I prayed for her brother. I was in shock, so was she. I felt so bad for them. It was so unexpected. She was still in Utah. I was in Las Vegas. She went up there for her mom’s birthday party. She had planned on coming home that day but then when she got word she was trying to figure out what to do.

I offered to come up there and help out. I knew I couldn’t be with her around her family but I wanted to support her. I told her I would fly up, hug her, give her a check for the funeral expenses and take off so she could get back to being with her family. She told me to come up if I wanted to.

Later that afternoon I flew back as she was driving back and you can hear how happy she was for the time we had spent together. She said no one has ever done so much for so little time before. She did not need a check for the funeral costs she and her family figured it out so my offer was declined. This was a big step forward into our relationship deepening. Me being there for her. It was this day and everything that went on when we really started to feel and trust in the love we were creating together.



1st Voicemail 3-10-2015 12:56am

Hey Sam it’s me. Listen, I know you’ve had a really rough day and I’m really sorry about that and I wish there was something I could do to help you. I just need you to know that I love you and I care about you and I care for you and I just. I’m just really concerned about you right now. And I just, I want to talk to you I want to make sure you are going to be okay. I know you needed to check out and just get away so I’m sorry I’m calling you again. I’m just really concerned about you right now. Take the time that you need I guess. Take an hour or a day or a couple days. I don’t even know. I don’t know what you need and I don’t know how best to help you right now. You are just such a good guy. You care about people and I don’t know if other people that for you and I just wanted to make sure you are okay. I’m just really concerned about you. You are just really down right now. So anyway, know that I care. Know that I love you, know that I care. Know that I’m concerned about you.

2nd Voicemail 3-10-2015 8:48am

Hey. So I’m driving so it was easier and safer to call you than text you back. But, as far as you saying you want to come up here just to hug me. I think that is just really sweet, but I don’t want to make you do that at all. It’s too out of the way, you know whatever thing and I just, I mean, I don’t want you to think that I’m turning you down. But I, you know how I am about not wanting to ask somebody to do something and that’s a huge thing to do. But I really appreciate that. So, it’s up to you. If you want to, I would love to see you and if you don’t, it’s a hassle, it’s an all day thing, I’m totally understanding of that. The other thing is…

3rd Voicemail 3-10-2015 3:47pm

Mr. Sam Cooper. I wanted to leave just a quick little message for you just thinking about you, just wanted to say I’ve had a fun time getting to know you. You are a great guy, I’ve totally enjoyed it. We’ve had great conversations and I’m just having fun with it. This is, just really sweet. I am on my way home now and I was just thinking about you so I thought I would leave you a message. Anyway, I will drive safe, I want you to fly safe and we will talk later. As soon as you touch down and have some time you should shoot me a text and let me know that you got there all safe and everything is all great and I can’t wait to talk to you again.

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Home sweet lake home

picture13707253107424  I am back in the U.S. We came back a day early. I missed my boys so much. I couldn’t go another day without them. I had a great vacation/work trip. I think we made some very good contacts there with people and may some day expand into Mexico for our investments. For now, it’s just a thought. My thoughts are pulling to an expansion in Dubai. That’s my next goal for myself.

We met up with 3 of our friends there and figured out who would be rooming together. The girls all decided to go in the bigger room and Todd and I split the 2 single rooms. It worked out great because the girls were going to be glued together all week anyway. This gave me time to look at my work emails at night and finally start catching up on my sleep. The entire week was amazing. We made some very cool friends. Some that live nearby and some we will keep in touch with. The lessons from the workshops were very powerful and also made me think a lot. I do not believe everything in regards to Abraham Hicks teachings. I do love the messages that come through but there is a lot of conflicting thoughts for me in regards to it. I sit and enjoy what is being shared and take in what aligns with my belief. The rest I just pass on by. Everyone was so kind and helpful at the hotel. It really was 5 star all the way. We signed up for extra things and went out on our own for some exploring. We did so much I’m looking back at all the pictures laughing. I did text some while we were there. I am going to send more out tomorrow so everyone check their emails. Also sending out the newest pictures of the twins.

My boys spent all week with my cousins. The nannies had the whole week off but Sarah was still overseeing things. It was fine until Day 3 when my cousins decided they wanted to take the babies out of the house. That was a no go. The weather wasn’t the best and Sarah told them no. She said it was fine and everyone figured out other things to do inside with them. It sounds like everyone had fun. That’s all I wanted to hear. I missed my boys so bad. I got home and immediately went into their room to check on them. I wanted to wake them up but that’s selfish so I waited because I knew they would be up soon enough. Heston woke up first. I scooped him up and his eyes got really big as soon as he heard my voice. I snuggled him for about 20 minutes, got him changed and put back down. He wasn’t hungry yet. Then I got on the phone with a friend and talked to her for a little bit. It was fun catching up with her. A little later on boy my boys woke up and I got to see Alex. He was hilarious. He was crying but as soon as I picked him up he stopped and just stared at me for about 3 seconds. Then he started crying again. We got some much needed cuddle time while I fed them. Sarah got up to make sure I had them because she knew I was tired. She said everyone wanted to go to the lake house early that the other 2 nannies would be over at 8am. We both laughed because we knew it would be closer to 9 for them.

Around 8:15 they showed up all ready to go. I loaded up all of our bags and we drove up with both vehicles. It is so nice being back here. All of my home renovations are done! It looks great. I am so happy with how it all turned out. I have to get the nursery decorated but the plain colored walls are all ready for whatever theme we do. Downtown their nursery is jungle theme with monkeys and all kinds of animals. I don’t know what we will do for here. All of the girls love their new rooms and bathrooms. It worked out great. The next big project is to get some of the outside stuff built. I can’t wait to begin planning that. I am so happy with how smooth it all was. I love it. It looks better than I imagined.

For me I’m going to run to the store then hang out with my boys all weekend. I have no plans to go anywhere I just want time with them before I have to go back to work. The girls are going shopping. I figured that’s why they wanted to all come up here. They have a few more things to buy for their rooms and then we can all start stocking up on household things for the summer. Most of my closets are empty because this house hasn’t been used in a while. I have the basics but for one person. Not for 4 adults and 2 babies. I love that Amazon app. We can order things and have it delivered here on the day we pick. So far everything we wanted has arrived and not broken. It’s been fun shopping online with them. I think the only thing I want in my room is maybe a new piece of artwork for above my fireplace. I think it’s time to take down the old one. I’ve been selling off or donating a lot of my grandmother’s artwork finally. Somethings are staying within the family but the larger pieces I am donating to some museums in her name. That way they go somewhere that everyone can enjoy them. I’m really trying to downsize all of my stuff.

I am really tan right now. It stands out in this white Cancun tshirt. I feel pretty good. I ate very well and was able to exercise and try yoga. Yoga isn’t that hard. It can be if you forget to breath. After a while it feels like liquid movements and your body follows the lead. I like it but it’s not something I want to do all of the time. It’s good for when my back is pitching a fit on me.

I think we are getting ready to go to the store. I am so glad to be back. I loved all of the messages and emails. Thank ya’ll for wishing me well on my trip. So sweet of you guys! Have a great weekend and I wil update more tomorrow after Church. We all agreed to leave here tomorrow at 6pm to get back downtown. I will have plenty of time to catch up with everyone this weekend.

God loves you and I love ya’ll too!

Cancun 2016

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My hotel keycard

Greetings from sunny Cancun, Mexico! We have been here all week. We meaning, my friends Todd and Brianna, Laurie, and Lindsay. We are all Abers. This trip has been amazing. I am missing my boys bad. That’s why we are leaving a day early. I want to go home.

We are going  finish out today’s workshops, do some more shopping and start packing. Tomorrow after the morning workshops we will load up and head to Houston. That’s where the 3 pack are from. They flew down here commercial but decided they wanted to go home early too. We won’t be missing any of the land cruise stuff. It finishes up tomorrow afternoon. After I drop them off I have to fly Lindsay back to Las Vegas. I am going to rest there a few hours and check in at the office. Not sure when I will fly back home, Friday night later or earl Saturday morning. Depends on how tired I am and the weather.

We have been doing all kinds of fun excursions. Scuba diving, parasailing, hiking, historical sightseeing tours. Boat trip aka Booze Cruise, etc. It has been a great vacation trip. I needed this because the next 2 years I will be dealing with twins that are going to become mobile very shortly. I won’t have time to go anywhere and I won’t want to miss any of their big milestone moments. I love my boys!

I am excited to say the judge is going to move my adoption up sooner than last I heard. I have complied with every one of his steps and the home assessments finally made it on his desk. My lawyer did not tell me a court date yet. We are still waiting on my medical test results. Praying everyday they come out okay. I feel fine. I’ve been fine for a few years now so I believe I can prove I’m medically able to handle the boys. After he has all of the information he is going to set a court date. Then we are going to have a huge party! I can’t wait. I’ve been thinking on adding their spiritual names to their names. Some of my family has done that. I don’t think I will but I have wondered about it. My legal name does not have my spiritual name, Marcus, in it. My parents didn’t want to I guess.

Cancun is awesome! You guys need to come down here someday. It is beautiful and not that expensive. Some of the things are but you have to account for that before you get here. The Abraham Hicks stuff is so enlightening. We are all sharing and learning some really cool things here. We have been eating some really amazing food and going out every night to dance with the locals. It’s been fun. We are all baked and tanned. I tan up very dark. It’s making my tattoos stand out. I have been stopped on the beach at least a dozen times this week so people can look at all of them.

The best reaction was a lady that has been a fan of that tv show we don’t talk about, saw the name on my upper right side of my back. She started jumping up and down and said OMG are you Sam? You are Sam. You’re real? No way get out of here and then smacked my chest Lol I died laughing. I told her shhhhhh and she said she would keep it quiet but then we talked a few minutes. She told me how a lot of people at her work turned her onto my name and then the tabloids she reads kept talking about everything. She said I just can’t believe you are real. Then she told me her opinion of the whole thing and we both laughed. She said you have the name right there, why the heck does anyone say you are fake? Are they stupid or what? Pretty much my thoughts too. Like I said, it’s all about saving her own ass so she doesn’t have to tell the truth to her husband and family. I guess and the fans too. Do whatever for your ratings. I think it’s funny. She asked how tall I am and she said well you look good, you would make me want to cheat on you too, look at your body Lol Todd and I were cracking up her.

So hi, Mrs. R I told ya I would give you a shoutout! Here it is. So great meeting you. Leave me a comment when you read this and I will send you my personal facebook link to your email 😉

How is everyone doing? Ya’ll miss me? I see the comments. I haven’t had time to look and respond yet. Thank you for those.

What else? Yes, Lindsay did get her account suspended. She did something I told her not to do. She did it anyway. The next day, BOOM. Gone. She doesn’t care. She laughed and said what are those fat ducks going to do without me now then rolled her eyes. I am kind of glad she’s off of there. I thought the things she was doing was mean and not very cool. I kept asking her to stop and erase things. She used to erase it when I asked. Not anymore. That should make a lot of these people go away and stop. Each week they just up the ridiculously bs level to a new height and it just makes me laugh. I’m really not that important, why are ya’ll sweating me so hard? You do realize I wasn’t even on that show? I just made a guest name appearance one time. I do appreciate you helping me advertise my book for free though. That free work has pushed my book sales up a lot. I can always tell when they send out the links because my sales spike that day. So funny.

I pray everyone is having a great week. I can’t wait to get home and kiss my sons.  I miss them so much! Facetime is just not the same. I need to hold them and tell them how much I missed them. Once I’m home I will have a few day trips for work but no more big trips until we hit the Olympics this summer. That is going to be a trip of a lifetime! Lindsay took me to the Australian Olympics and paid for the whole trip. She has been waiting for years for me to repay that one Lol She told me to go get a second job because she is hauling back so much Olympic gear we might need to rent a cargo plane. Oh geez! That’s if she is still going. Ben said she can’t go. She said she will divorce him if he ever tries to tell her what to do again. So I guess we shall see.

I miss you guys. I will do my emails on Sunday sometime. Yes I’m safe, Yes we are all have a great time and yes I will send pics when I get home. I have already sent some out via text. I can’t believe how much fun we are having here. I will write more on Sunday.

Love you guys!


You have a conscience, use it

truth  I had a verbal smack down last night with a friend. She was upset with me and had every right to be. Instead of starting off with excuses or pandering to her wanting to know what’s going on, I said you know what, you are right. I screwed up. I should have been in better contact with you. Then she let me have it and I listened. We talked for 2 and a half hours to work things out. It was a good reminder that even when I know I’m busy I still need to make time for people who do care about me. Lesson learned! Thank you, sweetness.

I found this quote about a month ago and have been wanting to write something about it but I haven’t had time to figure out what to say.

The only people who are mad at me for speaking the truth are those people who are living a lie. I am going to keep speaking the truth, my truth.

What do you think about that one? It says a lot for me. I really like it. As we all know, the truth always comes out. My truth is right here for you to read. I’m also available to anyone for questions. Unless you are mean, you can go kick rocks, I won’t talk to you. There are a lot of things I haven’t said yet. There are a lot of stories going around. If you believe crap from someone about me, look at your source of information. Where did they get the info from? And who are they? Do you really know that person? I’m right here. Come ask me anything. If it’s inappropriate I’m not going to even give you a comment of refusal. But if you have something you feel you need or want to say, come do it. I don’t mind.

Even to all of my former friends, I have always been here for you. Some of you have been reaching out to me lately to talk things over. I honestly never thought that would happen. And one person in particular reached out to work out our problems. It has led to an open door that I felt was locked, barred, and bolted forever to me. She has opened it and said let’s talk more. We are taking it very slowly. In 3 weeks we are getting together to sit down face to face and mend fences. I told her 3 days ago it’s either going to be a tearful goodbye or the greatest second hello in history. I know what is true and I know what is a rumor. Why are you looking at someone other than me for the truth? I’m right here ya’ll. I am accessible. Do I seem like I’m going to attack you for asking me a question? That’s just silly.

The truth is closer to you than you realize. I’ve been spilling the truth for months. It’s all documented right here. Any tabloid that uses my own words to twist into their story they want to make money off of is both stupid and a waste of your time. Tabloids lie. They make stuff up. Don’t waste your money on them. You can pretty much look on their websites and facebook pages to get the gist of the headlines anyway. So don’t give them money you can use for something fun, like a coffee, or a candy bar? I don’t know. What do people buy at the check out stand these days?


I was at Target the other day and bought a lighter. I don’t smoke. I brought it home and set it on the counter to see what Sarah would say. She immediately spotted it and said what’s this! She is big on no one smoking around her at all. I said it’s for candles. I ran out of matches Lol I have no idea why I just sidebarred that story. Anywho…

Look at how angry some people are getting about my story. My story. Not even their own story. If ya’ll want to waste your life gossiping about me, taking my words out of context and henning it up, go for it. It doesn’t matter because you are not telling the truth. A big bunch of folks are on my side. More people than you can see outside of your tiny little group of hate. You have done nothing, achieved nothing, and are crusading for nothing. Go back to your own lives and look in the mirror.

Who are you to talk about me? I don’t even know you.

I’m laughing because I know the reaction this has coming. I’m ready for it. Ya’ll have a great day. One more day until I leave for Cancun. Oh it’s going to be quiet around here without me for a little while. Enjoy reading my posts. I try really hard to make them good.

See ya’ll soon!


Rowboat Book Club Book #40

This month we are reading Jane Robert’s, Seth Speaks.

One of the most powerful of the Seth Books, this essential guide to conscious living clearly and powerfully articulates the furthest reaches of human potential, and the concept that we all create our own reality according to our individual beliefs. Having withstood the test of time, it is still considered one of the most dynamic and brilliant maps of inner reality available today