Yesterday was Eclipstatic!

We saw the Eclipse, sort of. It was pretty cloudy so we could barely make it out but I just added the 3 photos I took of it. Yes it’s in there somewhere. That’s Chicago though. Big event, weather shows up, enjoy.

Yesterday morning we met our adoption attorney from the agency we have been working with. She walked us through the steps we had to take which was signing some paperwork, paying the fee to the court and then it was our turn to go before the judge. I’ve known him for years. I’ve donated a lot of money to his campaigns and have always been a huge fan of his. He was happy to meet Peace. He held her afterwards for a family photo which I thought was very cool. She will have a copy of that photo forever now. He ran through everything and boom within 10 minutes we were in and out. Thank goodness we have our agency do everything Lol I would be so lost. Honestly this is the second time I’ve gone through this and this time was much easier. I knew the few questions the judge would ask me. I knew he would verify we wanted all of our documents sealed because of all of the harassment that continues online about me and my family. He asked my wife a few questions and then he signed the order. Boom! Done! Peace Taylor Cooper, welcome to our family. You now have 2 parents who love you more than anything.

After court we went over to our doctor’s appointment. We were a little early so I walked the boys around a little outside before we went in. We try to not have them sitting in a waiting room because the same 3 things happen every time.

  1. People ask if they are twins, ask are they identical, ask their names, how old they are…on and on
  2. People want to hold one of them and that’s not going to happen Lol
  3. We make a huge distraction for anyone that’s in the doctor’s waiting room and I end up apologizing to the whole room

Sarah is the one that came up with the plan to have one of us sit in the waiting room and when we get called in they come out and get us. It works out great. She’s so smart.

When it was our turn my wife came out and said let’s go. Then we had Brandi hold onto the boys in another waiting room all by themselves while we went to find out the sex of our baby.

Everything is good. My wife’s weight is up a little. She looks good, they put the jelly on the belly, they moved that laser thing around and there it was. Strong heartbeat. Then my wife grabbed for my hand and I held onto it. She wanted a girl so bad. I did too. That would even things out. Next thing I know we hear

“It’s a boy” and my wife started crying and laughing. I started laughing too and I kissed her then I said I told you I’m a boy maker Lol First my Ryan (RIP my boy) and now my son.

I’m having another son!

We went out to find Brandi and the boys. She said well what do we have and I said it’s a boy. She hugged us both and then I bent down and told my boys you are going to have a little brother soon. They have no idea but I hugged and kissed them both. Then I held my hand on my wife’s belly and said he’s in here he will be out in a few months. Still no clue. That’s okay.

After that my wife said “Peanut is hungry” which means feed her Lol We took the boys to a vegan restaurant nearby the doctor’s office. Man they had some great food. We had sandwiches and chips plus they have vegan cookies. My boys only wanted the cookies but we managed to get almost half a sandwich down them each. Heston just really eats anything. Alex is my picky baby. He won’t eat it if he doesn’t like the taste. He’s a little stubborn.

I almost forgot!

While we were sitting at lunch eating Brandi said to Heston do you want Mama to have a baby boy so you can play with him. Heston looked right at me than at my wife and said Mommy. That’s the first time either one of them have ever said it. We have repeated the words Mommy and Daddy over and over. This was a big moment. My wife started crying and gave him a big hug and a kiss. We tried to get him to say it again but he was all done. That’s all we got, just the 1 Mommy. Alex just kept eating. Peace was such a trooper yesterday. She really did very good all day. She didn’t fuss at all in court. She stayed quiet and chill while we waited and even all during lunch when I was feeding her. Can I just say how much easier it is to feed one baby at a time? I was actually able to munch on my sandwich while I fed her.

After lunch we took the boys to a toy store while Brandi waited in the Escalade with Peace. We wanted to get them a little something and my wife wanted to get some blue stuff for the baby reveal and a pair of baby shoes.

We got home and by the time I got all of the kids situated and ready to go they had put together the big box with the blue balloons in it. My dog wanted to eat the box Lol It was so funny. He kept trying to eat the corner. We had to put him back in the house.

We filmed our Facebook Live and we released the blue balloons. My in-laws were so happy. The video is on our family facebook page for everyone to see. We’ve already hit 1000 views! How cool is that. I love analytics. They are really fun for me to see. Most of our views came from Nebraska. I knew it would.

Yesterday was a really long day. We ended it with everyone giving us baby name suggestions. No I’m not naming my son Sam jr. I have a dog for that. No I’m not naming him after my dad or brother who have both passed away. My wife and I will pick something which means she will tell me what she wants to name him and I get to pick the middle name again Lol That’s how it was with Peace. We did both agree on it but it took her some convincing on that one.

I have written this paragraph 3 times now and I’m done if it erases again. I don’t know what’s up with my Macbook but it keeps erasing whole paragraphs as I’m typing. That means it’s time to get me a brand new one. I love getting new Macbooks! They really are the best laptops. Stupid thing. I bet it’s just something easy to fix. I will take it in today but I’m also buying a new one. One of my nannies can have this thing when I get it back.

Oh and I forgot the last new from yesterday. Out of nowhere Brandi told us she wants to move to Paris with us and be our nanny. My wife was very happy to hear that. I wasn’t. We already hired our team for over there. They are already living in our house and getting things ready for our big move. They even bought all of their furniture for their rooms and moved in. I mean we have it all planned out. I asked her why. She said she can continue her education since there will be 2 other nannies, she wants to be a travel nurse and what better place to travel all over than there. She said she has been praying on it for months and finally decided it’s something she wants. I said okay. It took me an hour to say okay. I was shocked. We will figure it all out. I mean I will have 4 kids soon. Why not 4 nannies? Lol We really were looking to just have 2. A main nanny and a backup one. I guess Brandi is now our main nanny. My wife said it’s going to make things so much easier and now she’s starting to pressure me into letting her take all of the kids over in November.

NO. I can’t do that. I can’t be without my kids that long. That’s 3 months. I just can’t do that. She doesn’t get it. We are going to have to discuss all of this more.

I need to get going. We are heading to Milwaukee on our first book tour stop then on to Los Angeles! If you are in one of the cities we are going to let me know. Leave me a comment here, DM me on Twitter or if you are in our Facebook pages let me know. I would love to meet some of my loyal long time readers and fans. I will already apologize to everyone that meets Lindsay. She is a very nice person but she has the attention span of a gnat. So she isn’t really rude she just gets done with talking to people very quickly. She’s really good talking all about herself than she is trying to communicate with other human beings Lol

We will see ya’ll on the road! Wish us luck!

Court date and Baby Gender Reveal

This will be a very busy week for our family. This morning my wife and I are going to court so I can get Peace’s adoption finalized. All of her paperwork is ready. We will be sealing her adoption papers just like I did with the boys. It’s a closed adoption by the birth mom’s choice. We never have to share her or make time for anyone. She’s all ours! Legally mine but my wife is looking into adopting all 3 kids. She was really serious about that. I’m going to talk to our family court judge this morning about that. Obviously it’s too late to add her to Peace’s case today but I think we can revisit this soon. I’d rather get it all done before we move.

After court we have a doctor’s appointment to see how our baby is doing. Then we are going to find out the sex of our baby! Everyone thinks it’s a girl. My wife thinks it’s a girl. I think it’s a boy because I’m a boy making machine Lol So we are divided. Once we find out I will call Sarah and let her know so that they can go buy the right color balloons. Tonight we will open a giant box filled with the correct color on Facebook live and everyone will find out at the same time. We are having my in-law’s over for dinner and we are going to do the event live with them watching. It will be so great to see their reaction. I’m pretty sure some of my wife’s sisters will be there too.

Let me think what else. Oh. My wife has this entire week off for vacation. She won her court case. I knew she would and she wants time to bond with Peace. It worked out great since I am leaving for 4 days. I will be traveling with Lindz until Friday. We have dual book signings together. This trip has been planned for 2 months. We knew when her book would be out and we decided to lump everything together. I get asked about Lindsay at all of our book events. I really think everyone is going to love her book. Her book sales so far are doing great! She has quite the following. Not as good as mine yet but she will probably pass my book sales.

I debated on taking my dog with me. I miss him when I’m gone and he loves to travel but I think this is a very busy trip and he wouldn’t enjoy it. He’s going to stay home. He will be bummed.

We had a very fun Sunday. We hosted a pool party for all of the family members still in town from our Baby shower. We grilled out and had so many great stories and memories to share from yesterday. Church was awesome. I love taking my family to Church. I feel so proud to show them all off. My Church family have always welcomed in whoever I bring.

I need to get going we are going to be late for court. My wife said it’s the most disrespectful thing to do so I want to leave early because I am so excited for today! Peace Taylor Cooper is officially adopted after today! We have a daughter! I couldn’t love her more if I tried. She is the sweetest baby girl ever. She loves great in all of her pink Batman stuff Lol Yes I have some. Yes she has already been wearing pink Batman onseys. Did you think she wouldn’t? Come on ya’ll! Batman is the greatest!

Have a great Eclipse day! Don’t look up unless you are protected. Not sure what time it will hit around here but I’m going to try to take a pic with my old camera just in case it screws up or something. I was told not to photograph it but of course I’m going to try.

God loves you and I love ya’ll too!

Opening Day #GoBears

  Today is the opening day for the Chicago Bears. Go Bears! I gave my tickets to my buddy Josh. He’s taking his brother. Have fun guys. I want to go but I need to stay home this time. That photo I’m using as my featured image, isn’t that fish? I don’t know what kind but it looks like a fish plate.

Also tonight we are hosting our adoption attorney and her team for supper. I’m having it catered because she wanted fish. I don’t cook fish that well (Vegan) since I don’t eat it and I don’t want to screw it all up. I probably could have figured it out but I don’t want to. We have a great chef that comes to help us for our events when needed. I asked her if she was available and she said Ye$.

This weekend we are getting the party plans ready for next Saturday when we have our Baby Open House. Since we adopted Peace out of the blue we didn’t have a baby shower. We have the invites done and sent out already. It will be from 8am to noon because I have Cubs tickets for that afternoon Lol We will be at the office to make it easier for everyone to come see us. I don’t think it’s fair to ask all of our family, friends, employees, and co-workers, to drive all the way up here. I also want to show off our new building. Most of our family and friends haven’t seen it yet. It’s gorgeous! It really turned out great and I’m already filling up the bottom floors with leases. Very happy things went well. Much nicer building. My other one is getting renovated. We will use it for more offices for our other divisions. I think holding onto it will be lucrative in the next few years. Someone will make me a fat offer and I will take it.

Also this weekend we are taking my wife shopping for maternity clothes. Her stuff is snug. She squeezes into it and then she said she feels fat. I say you look beautiful and she said this is all your fault. This may be the only time I’m very happy to take the blame for something. Yes it is my fault! She helped!

Peace is doing great. She’s gaining weight and looking good. The boys love their little sister. I can’t believe she’s already 2 weeks old. It has been a big adjustment but I really think the boys are in that in between age where they want to help but they also don’t want anyone else to have my attention. It’s getting easier to deal with them now that I know when one of them is about to have a fit. Do you know who’s the biggest baby watcher of all? The darn cat Lol Tristan has stopped hiding and has decided he needs to watch after her every moment. He even tries to sleep in her nursery but we shoo him out. He wants to know where she’s at all of the time. When I pick her up and take her out to the living room he follows us. It’s the weirdest and sweetest thing. My dog does the same thing but he also hangs outside most of the day. He loves having a yard. I guess I thought taking him for walks 3 times a day or taking him to the dog park a few evenings a week was enough. I was wrong. He really loves this place. We barely see him until it’s time to eat. I have 3 water bowls outside that we clean and fill up twice a day. He doesn’t need me anymore. I miss him Lol At least he still sleeps in our room. That way I know he’s okay.

We are still getting in some great messages. Thanks again everyone. The name Peace is a huge hit. It fits her. Everyone says wait until she’s a teenager, she won’t be so Peaceful then. Maybe she will. I wasn’t that much of a handful as a kid. My wife says she wasn’t either, her parents confirmed that. She said all of her brothers were. The boys in her family are still getting into trouble.

I need to go get my wife up for work. She said last night she will get here when she gets here for our special supper. She is so busy at work. I told her don’t rush, it’s fine.

Hope everyone has a great day. Almost the weekend! God loves you and I love ya’ll too! Peace!

My wife has a cold and she’s not pregnant

Last night my wife said she had the beginning of a sore throat. She thinks it’s a cold. I was trying to figure out how to politely tell her to go sleep next door in Sarah’s half of the condo when she told me she took a bunch of Vitamin C and thinks its better she stays away from the boys for a few days. Problem solved? I don’t know. I told her I think maybe she should go next door and she said if it progresses she would. I’m glad we think alike because that might have turned into our first fight.

Yesterday I was pretty busy at work. We have had a lot going on and some days it’s hard to keep up. I’m very glad this is my last year working like this. The travel schedule, the meetings, it is too much. When I get home I’m still trying to do everything for my babies because I want to. It’s exhausting going at this pace. I love my career and I love my family. It’s hard to find a balance.

The good news I can share finally is that I have passed (Again) all of the adoption requirement things I needed to. The hurled this time was that my wife will not be on the adopted child’s paperwork. She doesn’t want to be and the truth is I really didn’t want her to be either. She will be the mama. But for her own reasons which I don’t understand that well, she said it’s better if she doesn’t. I asked “Just in case?” She said no. That’s not it and began to explain that she feels like these are still all my kids. She has agreed with a lot of my demands although she may not like them. She wants to be able to do what she needs for her career and doesn’t feel if a Just in Case things to me or to us she can still work exactly as she is working now. She knows a family judge would never allow her custody of the kids as many hours as she works and doesn’t see her career slowing down. She is very ambitious. We have always agreed if I pass away for whatever the reason and any/all of our kids are under 18 still they go to Lindsay. Not that does not include any natural kids her and I have together. Then they go with her, of course. I told her I want my boys and any other adopted kids with Lindz because she will devote her life to raising them whereas my wife won’t have the time to do so. Lindz also knows every story about my life, knows how I feel about religion and all of my most important things I want for my kids. She has 22 years with me at this point and said she would completely change her entire life to do it, including giving up drinking and gambling. She has already stopped drinking which changed a lot for her. She is really into getting healthy and doing a great job. My wife can’t make the same kind of decisions because of her career and said if it came to raising the kids full-time or giving up her career she said she would honestly choose the career. I asked even if she inherited Sarah and the 2 nannies to help her and she said still, the career. I don’t think that’s selfish of her at all. That’s who she is and if she tried to take on raising kids alone she would hate it. She was very brave and honest for letting me know. We had discussed this over and over long before we got married. That’s why in our pre-nup as well as my will it states everything I’ve said above. Lindsay gets my kids. My wife gets as much visitation with them as she wants and would stay in their lives. I asked Lindsay would she move to Chicago if I died so that my wife could still be involved and she said yes. She would just cuss me out every time it snowed Lol

My children are more important to me than my career. That’s why I’m changing things up after this year. I want to take a few weeks off in my early retirement so I can figure out what I want to do. I will do something. My great aunt is a total b word and doesn’t want that. That is important work and my cousin Tyson said he would gladly hand it over anytime. He likes the lifestyle but doesn’t like some of the things you have to attend to. It’s not easy. It’s a plush job that someone in our family has to do per my grandmother’s wishes. It was her money that funds everything, we are meant to carry on her legacy for as long as the money lasts, which is probably 10 generations if not more. All I know is my inheritance money has been sitting in the bank since I got it. I live off of what I have earned plus the interest I make from my inheritance money. The bulk of it is for my children. They get everything I have. My wife will also be provided for but my children can have it all.

Our newest edition, whoever she may be will be in our lives soon enough. The adoption agency is ready to start our placement as soon as I tell them we are ready for that. I would like to wait a few more months. I want to make sure we are really ready for this. I don’t know if summer time will be better or fall. I just know sometime this year little baby girl Cooper will be here. And my wife and I are still trying to have a baby too. All of this practice has been great but it also can be a little impatient on the waiting part. In fact when my wife told me she was sick I got a huge grin and she said it’s not that kind of sick believe me I already peed on a stick Lol Drew said it will happen when it happens and that the second time he got his wife pregnant it was much easier than the first. Well at least there’s that. We haven’t been trying that long and we don’t really follow her ovulation schedule or whatever else. We just follow our mood and things happen. Fireworks! Then we wait to see if the stick gets 2 lines or not. So far not, but hey at least we are still enjoying it so far. I have heard the longer it takes the more worn out with the whole process you get. I hope it either happens soon, like now or it happens sometime later in the year. We have a certain window the next 2 months that would be perfect for me. It’s kind of up to her body though and that’s one thing I can do anything about. She has to help us figure all of this baby stuff out. She does a great job and I know my wife will make beautiful babies. She wants our children to have my eyes. I am still scared shitless to pass on any bad part of my medical genetics. I was diagnosed with leukemia when I was 3 years old and have been living in remission for years. It usually comes back when I least expect it and to pass that on to anyone would be devastating to me. This is why I have waited so long to get married and have my own kids. It’s a real threat to my family lineage and I don’t know if I could handle that kind of news. Life is what it is and I have survived this long. I just pray my children are healthy and have no issues.

I better get ready for work. It’s almost time to wake up my wife. Have a great day everyone. I hope you enjoyed all of my update blogs from yesterday. I kind of hit publish one after the other after the other. Yes the photos from this weekend are on my Facebook page. Go enjoy them. I think we looked good!

Birth parents and booze

Friday night after work I flew my family to Lincoln, Nebraska. We got in a little later than I wanted to (Thanks to my wife) but it worked out. We got the boys fed, Uncle Drew went and grabbed us all dinner because everyone was hungry (And cranky) then we hung out a little while before I got the boys to bed. Uncle Drew and my wife don’t really get along. They are civil but if either one starts talking about work or any of the cases they are working on all heck breaks loose and the next thing I know it turns into some weird kind of pissing match. Not impressed. We all stayed up late talking and finally went to bed around 1:30am.

Saturday morning Lol Oh geez, guys. Where do I even begin. So Saturday morning we got up at 7, Drew’s wife made us a huge breakfast and we got ready to go. We went to meet the birth parents. Just a reminder. My little cousin went to a party, got really drunk, and had a one night stand with some guy she didn’t know. They didn’t use protection and that story is 2 very different versions because she “claims” she was on a pill and he “claims” they used protection but then why do I have Heston and Alex Lol The version she told me seems more factual than his version and I really didn’t ever want to hear the how of this situation but had to listen to it from my cousin, not her daughter who was actually there. Either way we all met somewhere public because I did not want to deal with my extended family running their mouths or Drew and his wife butting in. We got over to the neutral meeting ground place and waited. My cousin, her husband, and daughter showed up on time. They were all very happy to see the boys. They boys love people in general so they were laughing and walked over to them. They are getting along just fine. Still wobbly at times but for the most part they motorize themselves everywhere. Heston has decided the only way he can walk is with both arms up Lol I don’t know where that came from but that’s what he does. Alex pretty much goes nonstop. In every direction all at once. And I hate to admit sometimes when one of them takes off I can’t tell who it is from behind and I call out the wrong name. It’s actually not funny in the moment but I do need to work on that better. Sarah knows who is who a lot better than I do which is sad. I’m trying to figure out how to tell them apart and may end up doing slightly different haircuts Lol I don’t know what else to do. We had them in matching outfits on Saturday because that seems to be the thing to do around family. They all want to see the twins, #twinning Lol Oh come on guys, that one was funny!

The birth dad and his parents showed up a half hour late. Not a big deal. The birth dad walked up and shook my hand. Said it was nice to meet me and said he was a little nervous. I picked up Heston and introduced him to his birth father. They both look like him. They have my little cousin’s mouth and face shape but they have his blue eyes, his nose, his body shape. He is a tall, thin kid. I guess muscular. Blonde hair, blue eyes. He said he is 6’1″ because I asked. He said he weighs 175 which is why he’s so thin. His parents Lol Well his dad chugged what was left of his beer before he got out of their truck. He said hello but didn’t shake my hand. His mom said hello and just kept staring at the boys. His dad smelled drunk, looked drunk and obviously was drunk which immediately put me on guard. They all went to wash their hands so they could touch my children. That’s not being shitty (Maybe a little) but we all wash our hands before we touch them. It’s just better for the boys. No one protested at all because they all went in a group.

Seeing my little cousin walk next to her one night stand was very interesting. In fact he was more interested in talking to her than actually playing with the boys. Heston kept looking at him like he was looking into a mirror in 23 years from now. He was fascinated. After a few dance moves and some laughing everyone relaxed and my boys began going back and forth from both groups. We all sat on a big table and everyone got plenty of hugs and greetings from both boys.

After about 15 minutes I said let’s do pictures first because I really want to fill out some more information from the grandparents. They all knew I wanted to do this. I have information from both of the birth parents. They did help me with that. But I want to know more extensively about family health issues. Grandparents, great grandparents. I also wanted to know about his family tree. How many aunts, uncles, cousins. Are they all tall and thin too? I am very curious about this young man.

Pictures actually went fine except a small argument between the birth dad and his father. I have no idea what got said but he spun around right in the middle of a photo and next thing I know he’s chest to chest. The mom said something about Not here and then I think they both separated a little. Not cool, guys. Not cool at all. I stood up at that point because I told everyone if it gets uncomfortable I’m taking my boys immediately.

I now have photos of my boys with both of their birth parents, together. They held one each. That is a photo I am going to treasure. I needed to see that. I think they also needed it too. I did a one hour photo thing and got a bunch of copies. I have to mail those out today sometime. Then it was time for photos of me with the birth parents and the boys. Then my wife joined us. Than Sarah wanted photos with them. Then came the birth grandparents Lol

The birth dad’s father is a jackass. That’s being nice. He wouldn’t hold Heston. He said he didn’t want to which is completely fine. And with him being drunk I did not want him holding him either but his wife kept trying to shove Heston into his arms. Finally he just stood there with a pissy look on his face. I didn’t expect them to smile all happy in the photos. I just wanted photos for the boys. Yes being selfish I also wanted to see what my boys will look like as they grow up. The birth father’s mom brought his baby photos. My oh my do my boys look like him. It’s amazing how much. I was kind of hoping that he would have dimples like I do but he doesn’t. He smiles a big smile though just like me so that’s the second thing he had in common. I kept studying his features. He has broad shoulders. He stands with his hands stuffed in his jeans. Some of his motions with his head the way he leans it a little, they both do that. I have no idea how that happens but I’m telling you birth children genetically do things without being taught. You can not teach them some things they do automatically. The birth dad’s father decided he was done and went and sat in the truck. He needed more beer and a couple of cigarettes. His wife was so embarrassed but that wasn’t her fault. She said it’s been hard because he didn’t want his son to sign over the boys. Now that he sees the boys are very happy and healthy I think it will sink it, it’s all okay. She got emotional and said she knows this was the right choice for her son but it’s still hard sometimes. She was a sweet woman. I think she has been in a rough marriage. She seemed, I guess shaken at every little thing.

Pictures were done. They took about 45 minutes or so. Then we just sat down and relaxed. My little cousin took turns holding them. The birth dad took turns also and finally started to enjoy himself. He got them both laughing and you could clearly see their eyes light up like his did. I started asking questions about the family tree and health history. They both answered the best they could. I wrote a bunch of things down. I asked them if they wanted to know anything about our life. They asked a lot of questions about the boys. They wanted to know what school, what activities we do, what they eat, who started walking first. Those type of things. I have a mountain of photos and I showed them videos of almost everything they asked me about. Everyone was having a good time and laughing.

Then birth dad’s father showed back up. Even more upset than before. He started raising his voice at his wife. I took him aside and told him we all just wanted to meet him. He said he didn’t want this. I said I know but we have an open adoption. You are apart of their lives now. That’s when he started to calm down. I told him this did not have to be the one and only time we saw each other. We can do this annually. We can do it more often. We can make other plans. I told him I would fly his family to Chicago to come see us. He said he could pay for it if they wanted to go. I told him I didn’t think his son would want to continue to see them. But maybe now he changed his mind. I think he was scared. He said he wasn’t scared. He just didn’t want the boys to grow up and never know who he was. I just laughed and said they photos from today will be in their room. I will continue to tell them they are adopted and when they are old enough I will tell them the whole edited story. The clean version Lol

I think it finally got through to him that we didn’t steal his grandsons. I told him my parents are dead. I don’t have grandparents for them. If he wanted to be a grandpa he could but he had to get his shit together. He glared at me and I let him know my boys won’t be around someone who drinks in a parking lot because he can’t cope with a tough situation. He didn’t like that. I said what you do at your home with your life isn’t my business. What you do around my children is and he needed to show up for them. He said but I’m here. I said no you really aren’t. You aren’t interacting with your grandsons and they really want you to.

So we walked over. I picked up Alex and then Alex decided to let out his famous NO cry and had a total meltdown. I told him this is normal. We just switch them out Lol I picked up Heston who is my chill baby boy and he held him. Heston was fascinated with his face. He kept grabbing him by the cheeks. It was like seeing a guy melt. It was awesome. He sort of tickled Heston a little which made them both laugh. Then I said Heston this is your Grandpa (Insert his name). I asked do you want to be called Grandpa or Papa or what do you want? He said he would like Papa. I said there you go. Then I picked up Alex and told him this is your Papa. He had already stopped crying things to a quick snack and my wife picking him up. Alex wanted to his Papa to hold him so I told him to sit down so I could hand him over. It’s much easier to sit with twins than it is to stand. They start wiggling around. He sat down and there he had both boys on his lap. He was smiling and talking to them. He told them maybe someday Papa would take them fishing. I said they would love that. They he started looking at their hands. He said they are really small. I said give it a few years and their hands will be as big as his own son. The birth dad started laughing then put his hand up against Heston’s hand. Heston thought it was high-five so he smacked it which made everyone laugh Lol It was really funny.

We meant to stay for 2 hours but it was more like 2 and a half. The birth dad’s mom got to feed Heston and my cousin got to feed Alex. Just some snacks and their water.

It turned out okay. I hope this helps everyone with whatever concerns or worries they may have. We all hugged before we took off so I think that’s a good sign. I wasn’t really happy about the birth dad’s father showing up mad and drunk. I told the birth dad he needed to talk to him about that. Because that won’t be allowed next time. He asked, next time? I said we have an open adoption. You have always been invited into our lives. That door will always be open to you and your family. He said he wanted to take some time to process today but maybe sometime later this year we could get together again. I told him if he wanted alone time with us without his folks I would fly him out. I gave him my business card which has all of my contact info on it and said call anytime. He said he would, thanks. He thanked me and wrote down his new address to get copies of the photos.

It turned out okay. A few hiccups but my boys are so young they won’t remember any of it. My little cousin always loves being around the boys. It’s very hard for her to say bye to them. I always try to reassure her we will see her again. My wife had a lot of opinions on everything but I listened and respectfully disagreed. She thinks as a mom and doesn’t realize all the stuff I have been through to get to this moment. She wasn’t with me through all of that. I must have patience with them. I can’t dictate how our open adoption works with limitations. I can only protect the boys and I did let them know no more drinking. I stood up to him and took him aside so we could talk privately. She thought I should have taken the boys and left. What good would that have done? That may have made them never come around again. They needed to see that we are happy, they need to know they are wanted and I really want them to see the boys grow up. Now they have a Papa and another grandma. How cool is that? She still thinks I’m wrong. Not the first time that’s happened.

We got back to Uncle Drew’s and told him all about it. He had picked up pizza for everyone. Then it was time for my wife and I to get on my plane and fly to Las Vegas! That story is coming up next. It’s a good one.

Great weekend for family time

We took our family up to the Wisconsin Dells and had a great time. The whole weekend was fun. We came back Sunday night completely exhausted. We managed to get a lot of great photos of everyone so we can update pictures for our hallways and offices. My wife picked them up last night and we laughed looking through all of them. My boys are getting so big. I can’t believe how much they change in a year. I’m cherishing every day with them because I know soon they won’t be babies anymore. They are already doing so much on their own.

The adoption process continues. My wife will not be on the adoption certificate and the state is putting me through heck over it. This isn’t a personal issue with her. I do not want to risk losing any type of custody with my children for any reason. I don’t anticipate anything causing a divorce but this is about my family. My children and my wife being an attorney understands. She said once they are all over 18 she wants to adopt them and she knows they already or will call her mom anyway. My boys are saying mama mama mama all of the time. She just grins and says “Hold on mama is coming boys” Lol I love it! I really found the perfect match for me and my boys. My wife is great with them and wants more kids. We are working on it.

The adoption will not be a kinship type this time. I can cut the time of adoption in half because I have previously adopted. It’s all of the home visits, the state information updates, and whatever else I need to do before they give me the go ahead on adopting. There are several female children needing homes. We keep getting info. Probably within the next few months I will get approved by the state and can ask God to send me my daughter. I want my boys to have a sister. Older or younger, we will take either one. My wife is excited to have a little girl to pamper and treat like the little princess she will be.

I don’t know how people can be patient through adoption. Every day it’s getting hope up because maybe something will happen. I really thought (Naively) that since I’ve been through it once, the state would gladly say Checkmark, checkmark, checkmark, approved, go adopt. Nope. That’s not how things work so I’m having to be patient once more. The hard part this time is that she is already born. She is out there somewhere waiting for us. I hope she realizes how much we want and love her already. I did not put down a preference for any race, disability, or anything else. We will take what God sends us. Yes there is a certain amount of selection. But I’m fine with any. My wife also doesn’t have a preference is Sarah told me she prays we get an African-American baby girl. She said maybe then people would stop staring at her when she sees them with my boys Lol I didn’t even think about that. When people are really rude I put my arm on her shoulder and ask what’s for dinner, honey Lol She laughs it off but there are still some closed-minded folks in Chicago. Sarah being African-American taking care of two blonde hair blue-eyed babies deals with more racism than I’m aware of. The only time it got really bad I shoved a guy out of her face and told her to get to the car. Then the guy and I had some words and I walked away because he’s not worth it. And I really didn’t want to go to jail for punching him in his big fat mouth.

I would love to have a non-caucasian daughter. I have no issue with that and think it might actually make me a better parent. I just pray it happens soon! I want my boys to know what it’s like to have a sister. And my dream of having a daughter and sons will be complete. Then it will be time for my wife and I to make our own kids. She is from a big family and I want a big family so we have talked about 4 or 5 kids. I told her the most would be 6. I don’t think I could handle more than that. Sarah almost choked when I said that Lol Poor Sarah. I told her hey at least you will have a lifelong job at this point.

I hope everyone is having a great week. I’ve been going back and forth to smaller suburban towns south of the city. We are looking for a specific mall building to buy and we haven’t found the right location or lay out yet. It always looks different from it does on the Loopnet. We need to find it soon. I have a project in mind and I need this building up and running by August.

Have a great work week and I will update more later! Love ya’ll!

Happy Birthday to me (Yesterday)

Yesterday was my 44th birthday. All day long I was receiving the love from everyone I know. It was very nice. Thank you all. I felt great all day.

Last night my wife surprised me with a big party. We shut down a hotel ballroom and had a catered dinner, a live band, and a few really funny toasts. My friends do not hold back on calling me out on everything I’ve ever done that was either really stupid or funny. Pictures and videos from last night are now up on my Facebook. I was going to do it when I got home last night but my wife had one very sexy present left for me to open Lol

It was such a great time. I loved seeing my boys come out in their baby tuxedos. That lasted a half hour before Sarah took them home for the night. We ate, danced, and laughed. We got home at 1am and I’m struggling to get my mind focused on this morning.

TGIF!

I’m so happy to read all of your messages today. Thanks again guys. I love ya’ll right back. We are having a nice quiet weekend at the lake house. Sarah is staying in the city. Brandi and Heather are driving up tonight after they get out of classes. My wife is “supposedly” getting off work at 4 which means 5. I’ve learned that one. My boys and I will wait for her then drive the Escalade up with the dog and see how that works. Usually Sam jr rides in the Range Rover with the girls. Makes it easier on the babies. We shall see. Either he or one/both of the boys will be crying on the drive, I guarantee it.

Anyone have any big plans this weekend? I can’t wait to flop on the floor and play with my sons. My wife and I have been actively trying to get pregnant. The adoption is still going forward. I know it’s going to take a while and in my heart no matter what, I know we can all handle it. Now would be the time to have more kids, even if it’s 2 more at the same time. I changed my preference from a baby to a toddler, child, pre-teen, or teenager. That way we won’t end up with 2 babies at the same time. I really can’t go through it all over again Lol Remember, I almost didn’t make it that first month. It’s a lot harder than you think. My wife missed out on all of that. She said she came into the family when the coast was all clear. Ha ha honey, nice.

We will see what God blesses us with. I do know 100% I am adopting a girl. I just don’t know who she is yet. I can’t wait to meet her. She is already loved and wanted so much! And since I’ve already been through the adoption process once my attorney told me this time it will go quick. We may hear we have a match and a month or two later she’s coming home. I just pray she wants us as much as we want her. I look forward to it. I really do. Adoption means so much to me. I know I can provide a very healthy, happy home life. I just need to work on being overprotective. I’m still having mini heart attacks watching my boys walk. But you have to let go some time, right?

Have a great Friday work day everyone and have an awesome weekend!

Love ya’ll!