Sunday is always Family Day

Boy do I have some updates to share. A lot has been going on, I have been extra busy and now I can finally tell you guys what’s been going on.

Brenda’s mom Lynn moved in for a few weeks to help us with the kids until my former nanny, Sarah, figured out what she was going to do. Sarah had her baby, a beautiful little girl named Rain. She does not know who the father of her baby is yet, but the only 2 guys that could be the dad have already been tested for DNA. The results will be ready in a few weeks. That’s a little nerve wrecking for Sarah. She loves being a mom. It was a huge surprise to all of us but I’m very happy for her. She will be a fantastic mom, she has been a surrogate mom to my kids and I have seen her motherly side. Sarah decided she wanted to move back to Denver. She enlisted her 2 best friends in Dallas and rented a huge SUV to make the trip as comfortable as possible. They left early yesterday morning and got her last night. Sarah will always be welcome with us. I have told her that for years. It was too hard for her to stay at her parents house. She said she wants her own life. She is not coming back here to be our nanny again. She wants to live in the guest house for a few months until she can figure out where to move to in Denver. She loves it here. She is FINALLY going to get a nursing job. She wants to teach nursing at the community college level which I think is great. So she is here, with her baby, and we are leaving her alone. The kids missed her soooooo much. The boys were crying and Peace kept grabbing her by the leg Lol It was cute. She is going to get her baby in the nursery and settled into a routine before she starts hanging out in our house more. She said she needs to be taken care of right now. I told her we will all pitch in to cook, clean, babysit while she showers or rest. It’s going to take a village. It always does.

My aunt is here. She decided to stay until next Saturday morning. She needed a break. She just got through a divorce and wanted to get away. I don’t blame her. My Uncle can be a little difficult to deal with. I pray they both resolve the lingering issues soon and then leave each other alone for a while. They need it.

And we just had a big family meeting. The plan we came up with may or may not work out. Here is what we are going to try to do.

Brenda and Lynn will be going home on Saturday morning. I am so appreciative of both of them for helping me out. They will be greatly missed. Sarah is staying a few months. When she can, she will pitch in and help me with the kids but I am not relying on her. I am finally going to be on my own with my kids. It was the plan since last year. I gave everyone months and months of notice. It is going to be hard. I want to do it. I quit my job and went part time to raise my kids. It’s that important to me. I have always wanted to be a dad. It took a long time for me to get here and now I want to do it.

I have a beautiful girlfriend who loves kids, she’s a teacher. We are kind of rekindling things after a huge breakup months ago. We are trying and it’s going very well. I know as soon as the borders open up I will travel up there and we can start all over again. I want a mom for my kids but more importantly I want a life partner. I want to be married again. We are going to take our time in building our relationship and I look forward to seeing how it goes. This is a huge step for me. I don’t date casually. I always have intention of things going into a serious relationship. I think I have finally met my match. I thought my ex-wife was it, but I realized after a year we were not on the same page in life. This time I have taken a LONG TIME to figure out what I need and want for myself and the kids. It’s the right time. I’m ready to start a big relationship. And I want it with her. I am happy. I am happier than I have been in a long time. Everyone is noticing it and commenting. I’m glad. I need all the support I can get, I do not have the best track record with women Lol

So how are you guys doing? We have the pool open already. The kids love it. They are swimming twice a day. It’s good to see how happy they are in the water. The swimming lessons they have all taken paid off. I’m doing the best I can to keep teaching them. I want them to be safe and I need to know they can get themselves out of trouble in the water if anything ever happens to them. Swimming to me is a life necessity. I think everyone needs to learn the basics.

We are playing a lot of baseball in the backyard. Guess who the best base runner is? Peace Lol She has picked it all up very fast. My goodness is my daughter smart. We are still doing a summer school program. It’s going well. I print off their worksheets in the morning. We spend about an hour each day on it and they like it. Education is key and my kids will go to college. I do not want them living life without a great education. That is priority #1. It’s giving us all a lot of bonding time and I really enjoy watching them figure things out.

Everyone is doing well. I hope you all are too. I have been fighting a bad headache all day. I think a house full of people, so much cooking, cleaning, and staying active finally caught up with me today. I crashed and burned. I’m feeling better now with 2 hot showers. My allergies are getting better but these migraines are impossible to deal with.

Take care of yourselves guys. Wear the damn mask. It’s only for a little more time, they will find a vaccine and we can be safe once again. Social distance until your local area says it’s okay. Please be aware there are guys like me out there trying to protect his kids at home from this crap. You wearing a mask means I have a less chance of contracting it and dragging it out home. I always wear a mask and gloves. I will until this whole thing is over with.

I will update more this week! Love you guys!

Another Family Meeting

Hey guys. How are you holding up? I’m okay. I’m having a little insomnia lately and a little anxiety but I think that’s normal right now.

We are still in Hawaii at the Family Compound. We are still all healthy and safe. The kids are doing good. They are still being homeschooled. That’s getting much easier. Brenda and Gabby are doing okay. And now Brenda’s mom has also joined us. She has been in a 14 day quarantine in the furthest cabin from the main house. We take a golf cart down to her a few times a day to check on her. We stand back from the back sliding glass doors and talk to her through the windows. That’s the best we can do. She isn’t sick. She had already been stuck at home. When she got here, we ran her through all of the steps we had to make sure she wasn’t bringing anything onto our little island. She’s a champ. She gets to join us on the afternoon of the 13th and boy are we all excited. Brenda struggled with it at first but she’s finally calmed down. I’m no longer accused of keeping her mom locked up like a damn zoo animal Lol We all agreed to the 14 day quarantine before she even got here.

So we had a family meeting this morning early. We had Lynn on speakerphone so she could get in her votes. She is strongly opinionated which makes everything so much easier. We rationed out this weeks food and snacks. We are running low on a few supplies and I explained to them I have some ordered but good luck getting it all here. I hope it shows up soon but I don’t know. I’m going with what I have at the house. Everyone has their pick. I ran Lynn’s box down to her house and chatted for a little while. She said my kids can call her Grandma Lynn which I love. I know they will love it too.

We are okay. My focus this week is to stay calm, to make a shopping plan and in 2 weeks go back to the stores. The Coronavirus is getting worse. I hope you guys are all okay. I pray everyday for all of you. God is going to watch over us and with our own decisions and guidance from the CDC we can be safe.

Stay Home guys. It’s only a little bit longer than we will be free again. My kids want to go home and I haven’t explained any of this to them. It’s going to be okay. Take care of each other!

Impromptu Family Meeting

We are still in Waimanalo, Hawaii.

For the first time since she became one of our nannies, Brenda called for a Family Meeting. Which included me and our neighbor Gabby who is staying with us in Hawaii. She is getting worried about her mom who is now laid off of work. Her mom had asked if she could come here. She has been stuck at home working since March 12th. She was getting her food from other family members dropping it off. She said she has not left her house at all, she has no pets, was not going to Church. She was quarantined and safe. I asked to talk to her mom so she put her on speakerphone. I asked, if you come here, do you mind a 14 day quarantine until I let you around my kids? She said no and she understands. I said I don’t know when we will or can go home but if she wanted to leave at anytime we would make the best arrangements we could. She said she is laid off of work and now would be the best time to get out of the Dallas area if she wanted to go. She had never been to Hawaii and probably would never be able to afford to come. Brenda said she would pay for the ticket here and when it was time we would take her back to Denver with us, then Brenda would buy her a ticket back to Dallas from there.

Then came the logistics. Can you even get a flight right now? Do you have a mask and gloves? Are you willing to wear old clothes so you can burn them as soon as you arrive, shower, then help us figure out what food and supplies you want in your cabin? Will you be understanding about just staying around your cabin which will be the furthest one away from all of ours? You can go outside there, you can use your golf cart to look around. You won’t be shut in without enjoying our nice weather. So many things to talk over. She said she can bring her canned goods, she can bring her toilet paper minus one roll to leave at the house. She will help us cook and watch the kids, she will do whatever I ask.

We voted yes, 3-0 so Brenda’s mom is coming out later today. Brenda found a flight to LA, then over to here. Her mom is so excited. She’s going to give away the rest of her food in the fridge and freezer to family so they can use it. She said she will bring her Ipad and some board games. I said and bring a deck of cards I didn’t have one. This will be great. I like Brenda’s mom. She’s a very sweet woman. She loves kids and I know my boys will latch onto her.

Things are going okay. We are staying on the island and not going anywhere. I think we have enough stuff to last a few more weeks. We talk to Sarah a few times a day on Facetime. She’s happy to be home with her family. She’s excited for her baby to arrive and said she’s sad she left. It really was the best decision for her. She went to nursing school with a lot of the people that work at the hospital where she will give birth so she knows they will take very good care of them both when it’s time. I’m glad she’s safe. That’s all that mattered.

The kids are doing the best they can. They don’t understand why we can’t go home. I’m trying to not tell them what’s really going on. I want them to just be kids here. I don’t want this on their mind. They like homeschooling (Sometimes) and they really enjoy being outside so much. The only issue is I may end up running out of sun tan lotion. We are outside constantly. Even when it rains the covered patio out back is plenty big enough to play or eat meals on.

I am so thankful to God and everyone for helping my family stay safe and making sure we are okay. We are becoming a lot closer as a family. I’m so used to swooping into town whenever a family member needs me. It’s hard to sit here and not be able to do that. I am sending out money where it needs to go to make sure my family and friends are okay. I’m also still donating to online causes or to random folks in my private messages a little here or there. I’m not looking forward to my next Walmart trip (I really don’t like shopping at Walmart) but I want to get everything we need in 1 store. I will do my best.

How are you guys doing? Is there anything I can do to help you? All I can offer are prayers and a little bit of money. I want you all to know I am thinking about you and please stay home. I’m saying it everywhere, the more you stay home the quicker we can all get out of our homes. I’m doing okay. My anxiety is finally calming down. I think worrying about Sarah’s baby was a big issue. I know she’s safe and I know her family will take care of her. I’m still dealing with a very odd sleeping pattern. I sleep a few hours at a time. It’s crazy. We are okay. We know God is going to guide us through all of this. I know it’s going to take more time. We are following the CDC’s recommendations and I’m making sure we are washing our hands and the other things that we can do at home.

It’s going to be okay, guys. Stay home, and deal with a new normal for a few more weeks or months. We all have to. I love you all!

It’s sandy daddy, why?

Hi from the Bahamas!

My kids love it here. The weather has been perfect everyday so far. I’m sunburnt, the kids are okay, and they don’t want to go home. I keep asking just in case one of them cracks. The water feels amazing in the heat of the day. It really is nice being on vacation and finally not having to cater to everyone else I’m with. I have real help this time. I didn’t know it would be this easy. I told the 2 nanny (friends) that came along we need to do this more often Lol Although I’m sure my buddy wants his wife and sister back soon. I just posted about 40 photos from this trip to our family Facebook page and I also uploaded the other photos from my phone and Ipad. I think you guys are all caught up on photos. I took this great photo of Peace splashing both of her brothers and she has the most incredible smile on her face. She really is a part sweet and a part naughty Lol She knew not to splash them but she did it anyway. The boys have been so helpful with her this time. They are growing up and I think they innately understand she’s the baby and needs extra attention. We have gotten in some serious beach time, then some doubly serious nap time Lol I think all of this sun is making us sleepy.

Jesse is having the best time. I know this because she keeps saying that to me. We have had 2 romantic dinners together and have found a little alone time here or there during the day. It’s nice to have someone with me that just wants to chill and have fun. She has made this trip very relaxing for me. I really have enjoyed getting to know her more and sharing some of my life with her. She didn’t realize all I had going on. I’m not very boastful about everything so a lot of people close to me are’t aware. I’m trying to balance my work/home/vacation life and I can honestly say, from here, I got it.

Should we move to the Bahamas??? Yes!! Are we going to??? No Lol I wish.

I do think we need to make this a yearly trip though. I already don’t want to go home and we are 5 days from it. I needed this guys. I really did. I also needed that couples massage we are about to get. Rub my legs and my sore feet please! All of this walking and chasing sandy coated babies around the beach has made me a little sore.

Hope you are staying warm or at least trying to back in the States. I will update again this week. Love you guys. I will be home soon!

Vacation anyone? Okay

We will be leaving tomorrow for our 1 week vacation. We will get home late Sunday night next week. I’m really looking forward to the warm weather and playing with my kids in the ocean/sand. It’s going to be so much fun. I’ve hired 2 nannies to help me. Okay, well they aren’t nannies. They are friends of mine who wanted to go Lol We are also taking Jesse. It’s going to be our first trip together. We had a lengthy discussion about getting 1 room for her or she shares my room. Then it turned into okay we share a room, but 2 beds? We settled on a shared room with 2 beds in case she feels like it’s weird but she said or we can just mess up both beds Lol Soooooo I’m thinking this vacation is already awesome and we haven’t even gotten there yet!

Sun, sand, nothing to do but play with the kids all day. It sounds perfect. I’m almost done packing up for all of us but I’m still not sure what else we need. Oh well I will figure it out. I have someone coming to stay at the house all week to take care of my dog, my 2 cats, and the damn birds. I really wish the cats would get used to the birds instead of trying to eat them every morning. They also both sit underneath the cage and plot how to jump high enough to knock it down Lol

I hope everyone has a great week coming up. Stay warm and enjoy the week ahead! I will miss you guys. Love ya’ll, see you soon!

Denver, it was fun, but I’m leaving

We have spent this week family reunion-ing with my peeps. I have had a great time. My kids are having a great time and I just don’t want to see these people ever again until the next family reunion Lol I’ve had my fill. So we are packing up and leaving in the morning. I want to go home. I have a lot of things left to do before my kids start school. I have to figure out where to drop them off at, what time I need to pick them up. A lot of logistical things I haven’t figured out yet. I’m glad it’s only 2 hours a day. It kind of feels like I’m dropping them off to a daycare. I don’t know how any of this will go but I am going to enjoy my time with playing daddy at home while they are gone for a short time. This is supposed to boost their education. I don’t know. I read the things they will do the first month. It just sounds like a huge play time thing. I’m not very cool with that. I want them to be there and learn things. Not fight with whoever over legos, trucks, and anything else.

I have finally posted a ton of photos and a few short videos from our time in Denver. This trip has been full of family stories and laughs. Check out my Family Facebook Page and see how it’s been going. Yes my hair did get a little lighter in color. That’s what happens when your cousin is a new beauty student and talks you into going a little big lighter for the rest of the summer. Good thing my hair grows fast and I don’t mind cutting it all off if I decide I don’t like it. So far, it’s okay. I can’t wait to see Jen’s face when I get back home and she sees it. I told her about and she just laughed.

Jen and I have been talking off and on. Mostly texting. I have been busy but I try to answer her back. She’s very nice. I am having fun getting to know her and I did tell her I would like us to keep a friendship after we move back, if we do. That is also still up in the air.

I hope you all are having a great time. Lindsay will be logging in here tonight and doing our latest rounds of bans. So bye bye stalker trolls. See you nowhere for a while Lol It’s still creepy you give this much care to what I’m up to. And as always, go do something meaningful with your life. I really don’t see, read, or care what you have to say to me. Everyone has moved on a looooooooooooong time ago.

Thank you Lindsay. Thank you all my batfans. And thank you family for a great week together! Love ya’ll!

Denver Day 1

We actually had a great time today. We had a luncheon in a huge ballroom at a hotel, then we got assigned into groups to make it easier for all of us to move around together. Thankfully my group has family members I actually like. I’m so happy getting to see everyone. I didn’t realize how much time I’ve spent away from everyone. All of the kids are growing up fast. I’ve had a few new babies, marriages, and very few divorces I got caught up on. My kids are playing nonstop with their cousins. Today was pretty cool.

Tomorrow is picture day. We are doing ours in the late morning so my kids will have all afternoon free to go do whatever they want. My nannies are taking them with our group and I’m going back to the house to chill. Then I will meet up with everyone and do the last 2 things on the day’s schedule before we go out to eat.

Family reunions, they aren’t always so bad. So far Lol

Welcome to Denver? Is that a cock-a-mouse? HIMYM joke

We are in Denver, Colorado until next Sunday. Unless I can’t take my family anymore and we leave early. I rented an Airbnb house because I prefer my kids to be more comfortable than crammed into a hotel suite. This house is pretty nice and we are very close to Cherry Creek mall which is a bonus.

Yesterday was spent with the girls running to the different stores to get us groceries and all the things we needed while I watched the kids with some family members. They enjoyed the swimming pool and I got the house ready. We ordered in pizza to make it easier for supper time. Today my cousin Nancy who coordinated this whole thing has emailed me the schedule of events. They have all kinds of kid friendly things planned which might mean I’m going to be bored out of my mind with a few occasional fun things happening. This is one of those family trips you just have to suck it up and get through it. Also the main reason I’m not sure we will be staying all week long.

The kids are having fun. On Tuesday is family picture day which means I have to wrangle them, try to make them sit still and smile a few dozen times. I think that’s going to be pretty tough. I am happy to be able to get some updated family photos done professionally though. I keep forgetting to go do that. We did some for Sweet Pea’s birthday party a month before her party so we could have photos up around the place. Then the party got scaled back so I didn’t put them out. I should have.

The boys wanted Disney pancakes this morning so I already mixed up the batter. They love the big Mickey mouse ears. I’m starting to get good making them. It’s taken me a full year to figure out how to get it just right. Flipping it is actually the hardest part. You can’t rip it otherwise you hear about it Lol I hope I can do a good job this morning.

Next week the boys start school. We bought all of the things on the school supply list. Yes even kids going 2 hours a day had to have a few thing. Mostly just hygiene related things. Kleenex, extra set of clothes each, handywipes, etc.

I’m going to have to get in a routine of getting them up early this week to prepare them. My kids usually sleep until about 7:30ish. Sometimes it varies. Usually one boy will wake up the other and then they go run into Peace’s room and get her up. Or they run into my room and decide I need to get up. I try to get up earlier than they do but Alex likes to get up at 5am to pee and usually crashes in my bed after that. He’s my snugglebug.

My headaches are coming and going right now. It’s not fun. They are all at the top left side of my head and it makes my head pound when I take a step. I’m taking Tylenol or aspirin. I’m doing all I can to help them go away but they soon make their way back.

We are all going to discuss our big Hawaii vacation that’s coming up soon. We will be there 4 days only. Everyone’s schedules are way too hard to coordinate this year. We are also praying that storm doesn’t sideswipe our family compound out there. The staff has already picked things up and secured each cabin to make sure we don’t lose anything of value. I pray everyone out there stays safe.

How are you guys doing? I’m here. That’s the best I can say for now. I’m spending a lot of time teaching my boys about school. How they will get to play but they are also going to be playing with educational toys. Things that will help them learn the things they need for next year.

And finally once school starts we are going to see how it goes but I may decide to get rid of my nannies. I’m doing great on my own. I will need to find some local babysitting help but I think for the most part I can handle all of it. I say that now thinking I’m Batman (Haha) when I’m not even close. I want my kids to start to see that I’m the only adult figure in charge. They get so confused. The whole purpose of me having these kids is to raise them. I didn’t realize I would have to do it all alone but until I meet Mrs. Batman than I need to step the F Up here. I rely on my nannies. I love them both but they need to get back to their lives. They do not like it here. I hear about it daily. They understand the circumstances with Alex and his lungs/heart issues so we can’t fly yet, but they do not like it. At all.

I pray we all get along this week and I find a better understanding of my family. Let the fun begin? No, no, no. Let the FUN BEGIN!