What happens in Vegas may not stay in Vegas

We made it to Las Vegas friday night. Lindsay and her new man, Dave, were there in 2 vehicles to pick us all up. Dave took all of the bags in his truck and Lindsay took the babies and both my wife and myself in her Escalade. She has so many gadgets on it I can barely find the radio to turn it down. It’s really tricked out. She told hugged and kissed my cheek than said I put all of the guns up this time. I said good because the boys are walking around a lot better this time. My wife just looked at us as if we were nuts.

We got everything set up and then she gave us the 5 cent tour. Her house is amazing. They did a great job on it. Her pool is a lot bigger and her kitchen is my dream kitchen. She has a lot of stuff I want. She told me I can’t have any of it or even touch it. She knows me so well. She showed us to our bedroom and it’s very nice. She has everything in there that I asked for. We set the boys up in the room next door where she put cribs for us. She also started yanking out stuffed animals and for whatever reason my little Heston latched onto the small dinosaur. He had to have it with him everywhere. He has never done that before. Alex has a few he loves and carries around but this was Heston’s first buddy. It was very endearing. He calls it dada. Of course because that’s one of the 10 words he knows well. He also likes to run over dada when he takes off walking. Dada hits the floor like an old piece of sausage and forget it Lol I thought that was funny.

We all ate the big meal Lindsay and Dave made for us. It was so good! I ate 2 helpings. It really was very delicious. Then I told her my plans. She said she had zero plans of going and doing anything all weekend. Her and her girlfriends were all gathering to babysit the boys. She asked if she could take them to 2 places and told me all about them. I said yes as long as she watched them closely. My wife said she was fine with it too. I keep forgetting I now need to ask if it’s okay with her as well. I’m so used to just deciding on my own. We are a family now and as I’ve learned (And been reminded, gently) I need to think of US and WE not speak as myself anymore. We still haven’t had our first fight. But I can tell you whenever it comes and for whatever the topic will be, I am going to lose. There is no way I can out argue my wife. I have heard her on the phone at night talking to people at work and she does not back down. One thing I love about her. She stands up for what she believes in.

We all hung out and just relaxed. The flight was a lot for the boys and I know it was too much to take them out the first night. My dog made himself at home very quickly. Of course he has his own room which he doesn’t sleep in. He sleeps with Lindsay Lol Which is fine by us because that gives my wife and I a break from his snoring and pushing our feet all over the bed at night. Lindsay loves him as much as I do and has had serious talks about kidnapping him someday. She keeps telling me how much happier he would be with her. That he loves Las Vegas and belongs there. That’s not going to happen. He just ran around the house and yard and played with all of the toys he got. He also tried to take off with Dada, Heston’s new buddy, and Heston had a complete meltdown. I had to wipe dog slobber off as fast as I could then give it back to him. That made him calm down immediately. And if you are wonder, yes he was able to bring it home with him. Lindsay tried to give us all of their stuff to take with us but I told her leave it there for our next visit.

Saturday my wife and I got up early and went hiking. It was cloudy and a little rainy off and on. That wasn’t cool but we worked it out. Then we got dressed and went out for breakfast. We had a nice time together. The conversation started into the pending adoption of a girl. She said that when she thought she was pregnant she was slightly excited but wondered about my reaction. I explained if you were pregnant and we adopted a little girl I would freak out because that’s too many kids under 2 for me to handle. That may potential 4 kids under 2. That’s nuts. She said good because she was a little hurt the way I reacted. I said we either need to work on having our own baby and that may sideline your career plans for the next year or we just focus on getting our marriage stronger, and more time together and wait a year or 2 for the adoption to go through. Once the adoption happens then we can start working on having our own baby. She said what if we reverse it. She said what if we string out the adoption longer, which I can do, and start working on our own baby. I said but that’s your plan. She said she’s got baby fever. I said WHAT????? But??? You??? said??? and she just laughed. She said she just didn’t want to plan it all out. With the adoption it’s a huge question mark and it may actually take 2 years. She wasn’t sure waiting 2 years is what she really wanted. I said well I want as many kids as possible. I know in my heart I want to adopt a little girl. I know that but the rest is up to both of us. She said she wants us to think about having a baby now. I said let’s go Lol She said no here and not now. But let us think on it now. I said okay.

So now I may end up with 4 kids in the next 2 years Lol I wanted to string it out longer. So that my boys have a little gap between siblings and I can give plenty of attention to each of them. It really is hard raising twins. I don’t care how easy some people say it is or what they do to make things easier. It’s hard. And for me it’s a constant worry. I think about my wife and the boys all day. Even at work and constantly question my decisions on if I’m doing this right. Half of the time, guys, I feel like a bad dad. I feel completely stupid and think to myself how I’m screwing up these 2 precious little babies. Then I see how happy they are to see me or how much they don’t want me to leave in the morning to go to work and I know I’m doing somethings right. My wife is very happy. I may be doing a good job. But I don’t know.

I really thought she wanted to work on the marriage for the first year. And try to get in our own little rhythm. That’s why we put Sarah in her own condo until. But maybe that wasn’t enough. She said we have Sarah and 2 other nannies. We can do this. I don’t know. I want to be selfish and wait but then again I really think having a baby with my wife would be amazing. I don’t want to hurt her feelings. We did talk about it all weekend. It was exciting and scary and a really fun idea. So I don’t know what to do. I’m going to pray on it more.

We went to see 2 movies, 2 shows, had every meal together. We spent time with the boys but we mainly focused on ourselves. I did receive some hilarious photos of my boys in a huge suds pools with their faces all covered in soap suds. Then I got a video of them laughing so hard. Both of them. Lindsay had taken them to an indoor pool place that has an area for babies. She said it’s a new place and seems very clean. Then she also took them to a huge park. She put them on the swings and sent pics and videos of that too. My dog got to go to the dog park 2 times a day and Lindsay bought him small ice cream cones and a hamburger each time. I said he’s going to expect that now every time we go in the car. She said so what.

Sunday was all about packing up and taking photos. We really did have a great time and I do miss Lindsay a lot. She is in Mexico a lot now and Dave said even when she is home she is working a lot. He said they only go out to eat 2 times a week now instead of the nightly venture. He said her no drinking rule has helped him a lot and he really doesn’t miss it anymore. He’s a nice guy. I have always liked Dave. I miss Ben and I did get to see him. I introduced my wife to him. He is happy and doing fine. He still hangs out with Lindsay a few times a month and doesn’t like Dave Lol I told him she is happy so we all have to be happy for her and that I liked Dave a lot. He’s a nice guy.

The flight home was quiet. My boys passed out and my wife was able to come sit with me a little on the way. She loves that I have my own plane and can pilot it myself. She says it makes her feel like we can go anywhere we want without anything getting in the way.

We got home and Sarah helped get the boys in the bath. I got all of the bags upstairs and my wife started going through all of our mail. We brought Sarah some gifts from Lindz and she started laughing at some of them.

We really did have a great weekend. And we may have decided to start trying to have a baby together. If that’s what she wants. I’m slowly coming around to the idea. I just didn’t want to have a baby and 2 months later our adoption goes through. It will be just like having twins all over again. And as we all know, I almost didn’t make it Lol

God bless you all, have a great week at work everyone! I will update more tomorrow.

 

Weekend in Las Vegas

We are going to be leaving a little after noon to go to Las Vegas for the weekend. We are taking my boys with us. We are also taking a bunch of paperwork for the new 50% owner of my businesses, Lindsay. She want to get familiar with more of the company and pick my brain on how things run. She has a lot of faith in herself and I do too. So far everyone has taken the news well except for a few of my VPs that don’t get along with her blunt business style.

My wife is so excited. I woke up to a hug and a kiss on the check then she jumped out of bed and started dancing and singing Las Vegas baby! So happy to see her this excited. I’m at work for a few more minutes. I probably won’t get time to update over the weekend. I’m so happy to update you all sometime Monday.

Have a great weekend! I hope everyone digs out of the snow if they got hit with that storm.

God loves you and I love ya’ll too!

Season 7 Episode 6 Recap

Listen, if Maddie wanted her dad officiate the wedding that’s her choice. Her husband agreed to it. You get what you get with him. I’m sure he did a much better job than I would have. I’m happy to see the wedding went off very smoothly. Forgetting the rings, that’s just a small mistake in a day full of successes. They privately exchanged rings and it was fine.

Congrats to the happy couple.

After pulling off my own wedding in November of last year, I feel their pain. My wife’s family is as large as my own. We combined the weekend into a big family event. My boys had already been legally adopted but I didn’t tell my entire family. The next day was the wedding and at the reception I announced it so everyone knew at the same time. It really was a beautiful wedding. With over 500 guests it was a lot of hard work for our wedding planner and her team and herself were amazing. My wife looked gorgeous. I cried as soon as I saw her coming down the aisle. Everything in my life ran through my head as she came closer. Everything led me to that moment. My parents and grandparents had all passed away so I had Drew and Lindsay walk down the aisle with me. Drew was my best man but Lindsay gave me away. Then she took her seat and helped wrangle my boys who were my flower boys. Heston threw one handful but that was because whoever back there put the petals in his little fist and he flung them mostly all over himself Lol

Our wedding video is something my wife still watches often. She likes to snuggle up against me and relive the day.

You really can live happily ever after. God can turn your life around and you can get through all of the bad times. That’s the lesson. Never, EVER, give up on yourself.

Our family vacation to Atlantis

Where did I leave off? We went to the Bahamas for a family vacation. I took all 3 nannies or rather they invited themselves. My wife planned everything out for myself and the boys. The nannies worked out a great schedule. All we had to do was get the babies on the plane and keep them happy for the almost 4 hour flight, two times. The first flight there was great. They both were a little fussy but we worked it all out and were able to keep the crying to a minimum. I think our fellow passengers appreciated that. Nothing worse than two babies crying at full volume for 4 hours.

We got to the airport and rounded up all 6 bags. We had to take 2 vans to the hotel and have help getting all the bags upstairs. The room was really nice. It was big enough to unload all of our portable cribs and baby stuff. It was supper time so we decided to order room service to make it easier. The boys were going to crash at some point and I didn’t want to have meltdowns in a restaurant. Thankfully they did have their meltdowns about half way through dinner so we got them fed, did baths and got everyone to bed. Then we had Heather stay with them in the room so my wife and I could go explore a little. The hotel we were in is very nice. I highly recommend it to everyone. We stayed at The Reef in Atlantis. We decided to walk down to the beach and have a romantic walk. She told me how happy she has been and how many more vacations she dreamed of us taking together. We decided to promise to take a vacation at least once a year.

We got back up to the room 2 hours later and completely ripped the bed apart. We had brought brand new sheet sets for everyone’s bed. The bedbug story right before we left freaked everyone out Lol We put on the new sheets over the mattress cover we brought and decided to chance it. The entire time no one had a bedbug bite at all. No one had any bedbugs at all. We asked the maid service to change everything everyday and wash our sheets. They were so great to help us out. I’m a little bit of a germaphobe so this helped calm me down a lot.

On Saturday we ate breakfast downstairs and enjoyed the 75 degree morning. We decided to take the boys to the beach. As we were getting ready to go downstairs my wife started squealing with happiness. My little baby boy Alex was standing there all by himself. He had lifted himself up using the coffee table and had taken a step. She saw him do it. He stood there not knowing what to do. He was wobbling all over the place it was hilarious. I grabbed my phone and got the video going. Then I told him to come here and bent down. He took one step, two steps, three then made it to me and fell down. Alex started walking! In the Bahamas! How cool is that. I already wrote it all down in his baby book. We told the nannies and he got all kinds of hugs and kisses for that. We got down to the beach and set up our massive beach plot Lol We had 4 umbrellas, 5 chairs, lots of towels. We took turns with the boys in the water. They were allowed to sit in the water but only allowed to go in the water with 2 people per baby. I held Heston and my wife held Alex. We had Sarah and Brandi with us the first round. Heather was talking pictures and videos. They both laughed when the water would hit their feet. We didn’t go in very far at all. I was worried.

We went back and forth into the room to cool them off. Each time the nannies rotated on sunbathing and swimming. Heather made a little friend named Jay. Jay seemed like a nice guy but I chased him off before he got invited to dinner. I told her he was trouble and flirting with other girls before he came over to her. She didn’t know that but we had seem him. He was just looking for anyone. She told him to buzz off and he immediately started up again. I told her see, he’s an ***hole Lol She said yes but he’s cute. Girls will be girls. We all enjoyed a nice time at the waterpark and did some of the slides. We took the boys to the baby pools and took turns going into the swimming pools with them. My wife took Heston down the lazy river and said it wasn’t so bad so we took Alex. He is the one that freaks out. We test most things out with Heston first and if he’s cool with it, we take Alex. I’m sure that will be discussed in therapy when my kids are older. How I used Heston as the tester of all things scary.

Saturday night my wife and I had a romantic dinner date. We got back to the room late because we had such a great time. On Sunday we went shopping and went around the resorts. It’s someplace we will come back to someday. The ladies all said they had a great time. They managed to get nice tans going. My wife said it was beautiful and she felt freshened up after a busy few months.

If you ever get the chance to visit Atlantis in the Bahamas, go. It’s a great vacation spot for the family. We had a great time. I feel relaxed and had a great week at work. I loved it. I put all of our photos and videos on my Facebook for my friends and readers that are on there. I’ve already seen some of your comments Lol Yes that’s my back tattoo. I got tanned too and it makes my tattoo show up better.

Have a great Sunday everyone! I love ya’ll!

Excited and What?

My wife has been on cloud 9 since I bought us the Atlantis vacation package. We are taking the boys and Sarah. Now the other 2 nannies want to fly in to “help”. They are going to buy their own flights down for the night we are going and share Sarah’s room with her. I asked Sarah if she was cool with that and she said only if they work out a schedule with her on who watches the boys on what days Lol I swear it’s like I have 4 wives or something. It sort of feels like that. My wife doesn’t care. She wants a Saturday night date night and that’s all she said about it.

So we have now worked this all out. Sarah is happy to actually get some time off work to go check out things she wants to see. I think that’s the only reason she agreed to all of this. Plus the room I put her in is bigger than I thought. I got 2 rooms right next to each other. Our is a 2 bedroom suite. Sarah’s is also a 2 bedroom suite. When I started to ask who is sleeping on the couch I got a look like Duh and stopped talking. I forgot these girls all hang out so they would most likely share a bed or take turns on the couch. As long as they have it worked out before we go. I insisted on that. We want to avoid the cat fight we all dealt with the last time we went to Lincoln, Nebraska Lol That was not fun and everyone agrees on that.

Check this out:

http://www.atlantisbahamas.com/

Doesn’t that look awesome? I can’t wait to show my family a beautiful piece of Earth like this. I know my boy will be swimming all weekend. We are leaving Friday. Our flight will be interesting. I hope the boys sleep the whole trip.

 

Saturday fun

We got up to the lake house yesterday. I made a very healthy and tasty dinner for everyone. Sarah stayed in the city again this time. She had some studying to catch up on. She says she’s loving the new privacy and loving having weekends free. My other 2 nannies are not because we have cut their hours significantly. I told them they are still on salary so it doesn’t matter their hours are cut. They still get their monthly paychecks from me. That made everything better. They are both almost done with school. Which works out best because as of next year I will be full-time dad.

My wife slept in. I got up and worked out. I got the boys up and they helped me make breakfast. I always have a house service clean and mop all of my floors the day before we get up there. My boys now spend all of their time cruising all over the floors. They are also now trying to stand on their own. They use furniture or the tables but they are doing it. We work with them every night to try to help them learn. This is a lot easier with a 2nd person let me tell you. I had already been trying to figure out how can I teach 2 babies how to walk all by myself. My wife came into our lives right at the perfect time. It helps she is a great stepmom. I love that the most about her. We ate breakfast, played with the boys and now we are just laying around while the boys take a half hour nap. We are going to get showered up then take the boys swimming. We have a family pass to a local place here and they really do enjoy it. It also helps my back. I’ve been having lower back pain for the past month. It’s a nagging pain and I don’t like it. I’ve tried working on stretching with yoga 2 times a week.

After swimming we are going to eat at a cafe my wife found. They have a very cool looking salad on their menu. I always take my some food in case they don’t have anything we all 3 can eat. I’m really excited to see what else they have there. I’m such a foodie.

After that we thought about going to see a movie but I still think they are much too young. I don’t think they would enjoy it. But she said if they start making a fuss we can just leave. She said if we don’t try to take them to these places they will never learn. That’s true. I’m still very very overly protective and I need to loosen up I guess. They are fine. We haven’t had any sickness in months. So I guess it would be okay. I’m not really much into going to movies in the theater. I’m a germaphobe Lol I don’t really like touching anything in the theater. Those kids they hire do not clean the seats. And I watched a 20/20 show once on a black light in the theater. I wanted to hurl. Not cool.

I hope everyone has survived the storm. It looks bad on CNN weather update. We are safe and staying warm. My dog loves it up here. He takes off as soon as I let him out of the back door. He runs all the way down to the beach. My wife keeps commenting on what the beach will look like this summer. We had a beach play set set up out there so I can drag it into the water this summer for the boys. It floats. She’s very excited to try it out since it was one of the gifts she got them for their birthday. It was on sale right after Christmas so she bought it early and had it built and set up out there. I know they will love the slide. They have always loved the slide in the park by the house. It’s awesome.

Have a great weekend. Stay warm and I will write more later! Love ya’ll!

 

Farewell to President Obama

  My wife and I have tickets to attend President Obama’s farewell speech at McCormick Place tonight. We are both getting off work at 2 to get ready to go. She said we are going to Show Up and Show Out so I was told to put on one of my Sunday suits Lol She loves to boss me. I’m excited to see what he says tonight. I have never fully supported him. I don’t support a lot of his policies and I have always believed his foreign policy has been the weakest since the Carter Administration. It’s been a disappointment year after year watching him speak a big game with little or no real action behind the words. He is a rubber stamp President and I don’t agree with most of what he says. That being said my wife is a huge supporter, she has met him a few time and proudly displays 2 photos of herself with both POTUS and FLOTUS in our home. I didn’t want to hang them up but she lives there too and is welcome to share her life with all of us. She was very proud of them and that’s why she wants them hung up. So I did what she wanted.

We are going to go out for a nice dinner together before we go to the speech. She wants Japanese food which makes it a lot easier for me to find something to eat. Sarah is going to watch the boys tonight for us. I’m looking forward to the final words in Obama’s last public address. I hope ya’ll will be watching too.

If you would like to hear or read some of Obama’s speeches I found a website that has archived all of them.

Please visit http://www.americanrhetoric.com/barackobamaspeeches.htm

Sunday Dinner

We got up and worked out in my home gym. That was very cool. My wife works out but not at the same times I do. It was really fun. She said she was looking at my sweating and lifting weights like I was a piece of steak she wanted. I laughed. That’s really funny. We got dressed for Church and got the boys ready to go. Church was great. The message was felt deeply throughout everyone. The whole time I was worried about my Heston and Alex. Turns out they were perfectly fine and made a lot of new friends. I was so grateful for that.

After Church we went over to a little brunch spot I’ve been wanting to try. We had a very good breakfast buffet meal and had a great time. Then it was off for some shopping. I knew we wouldn’t be out there long because my boys get tired out after a long morning. It was so fun getting their stroller out and walking around. My wife can buzz in and out of the stores like a champ. She loves watching after the boys and holding up little outfits for them. It’s all I have dreamed of. This family life suits me.

We are back at the lakehouse a few hours before we pack up and head home. I can’t wait to see Sarah and show her the things I bought for her. I always try to bring her something back when I’m away. She texted me a few times to check in and see how the boy are. She misses them when they are gone but she is also trying to ween herself off of them. She doesn’t want to cause a mess with my wife. They get along great but I also know there has been a little tension. It all got better as soon as the wall was finished.

Tonight I’m hosting family dinner at the condo. My friends and my wife friends are coming over. This should be interesting. We’ve had them all mashed up together in bigger events but not in close quarters like this. I’m making a giant mexican buffet. As soon as we get home I need to hit Whole Foods to get the things I know I have forgotten. Sarah is going to start dicing and chopping up veggies with 3 of her friends. I thought it would be 10 people but next thing I know everyone invited someone and it has turned into 26 people and more. That’s okay. I love it.

Right now I’m going to go play with my boys. They are up from their nap. I hope ya’ll are having a great Sunday! God loves you! And so do I.