Getting back into routine

Since we brought Talon home I have been busier than ever. My wife was still on bed rest a few days after we got home from the hospital. She was not feeling the best. She said today she feels a lot better and will be venturing out for the first time since being home. She just wants to go to the store. She doesn’t know what for but she just wants to. Fine by me. Again, whatever my wife wants she can have. Especially after such a hard time with delivery. I’m so happy Talon is here! It really changes the home a lot. Having 2 little babies at once is hard but we have a little routine going on. Talon gets fed the same or close to the time that Peace gets fed. Peace and my boys all get showers or baths around the same time and get put to bed at the same time. We feed Talon a few times over night when he wakes up and is hungry. Peace usually sleeps almost all night now but still has woken up because her little brother wakes her up.

We put Talon in the little room next to our bedroom and we moved Peace into the room next to him. My twins are down the hallway. All of my kids are on the same floor as us to make it much easier. The nannies live upstairs and have to go up and down the stairs if they need something from their rooms. Everything is going great. And then…

My wife decides we need to move Talon into our room, which is exactly what she did with Peace Taylor Lol We are trying to be polite with each other but we are both so exhausted. I sat her down and asked if we could move Talon back to his own room and she said no yet. Which means he’s in there for the 1st year. We juuuusstttt got Peace moved into her nursery. She was only coming in half of the time. My wife is deathly afraid of SIDS and I understand all of it. I went through a phase where I had my nannies in the nursery with my boys for 24/7. It lasted almost a full week. I don’t know what caused it but I did realize I was being ridiculous. She has to realize this on her own. So for now Talon is in, Peace is in a little and my boys stay in their own bedroom. The twins are sharing a bedroom for now but when they hit 5 years old we already decided they get their own room each. My wife wants them to have their own identity and their own space. Our house can only hold 2 more kids before we run out of room. Thankfully we will be adopting another girl at some point in the next 2 years so that Peace will have a little sister. Or a big sister depends on who God blesses to our home.

My nannies are helpful but I don’t know 2 of them well and I’m taking a little longer to warm up to them. They are there when I am out doing the shopping or going to get something. When I come home I’m full dad mode. That’s how I have always been. I pray we are done with the crud this season and no more kiddos gets sick. That’s wishful thinking but I really do hope it’s over with for now.

On to more exciting news, my boys will be having their 2-year-old birthday party in a few weeks. We have so much going on to plan it out. It’s going to be a small gathering and then in late March when we all have to travel back to the States we will do a big family party with everyone. Much easier to delay it then drag everyone over.

At this age my boys won’t know the difference anyway.

We love living in Paris. We have not been a big fan of all of the rain or flooding. Our house is fine. My office in Paris is fine. We have not had any issues. Further south of us has but we are okay.

Life is great! I love my wife, she loves me. I’m just not allowed to touch her ever again! Or until she says I can. Probably a month more than the 6 weeks after. Her little body went through a full-blown trauma and she said she’s not going to just bounce back like she thought. I told her don’t even worry about the baby weight and working out for now. Just chill and relax. I will help. And I have been.

I have no direction in what I want to do. I want to work or at least work on something. I don’t really know. I have plenty of time to figure things out. My wife said she’s going to be a stay at home mom for the next 3 months and then she plans to get a job. I have no idea doing what but her law career will continue in one form or the other.

This is an exciting time, guys. New baby, new city. All love! Hope everyone is doing great. If anyone is tired of Trump and wants to move to Paris let me know Lol Best decision we ever made. Especially if he keeps pissing off countries with huge bombs. That guy is a moron.

Home with a newborn and…

We brought Talon home finally. His small bout with the flu is finally over with. My wife is finally feeling better too, thank God. She was struggling the last 2 weeks and was put on bed rest. Her bp was high, her other blood oxygen levels were high and a few other things were a little on the high side. Our doctor put her on bed rest just to make sure she was going to be fine for the delivery. She was really miserable the last few days. I felt so bad for her with all the coughing and sneezing. I was really worried about Talon. I didn’t know what to do.

I went out to walk my dog and she sent me a text. Where are you? I told her where I was and she replied that her water had broken. So I ran back to the house. My dog Sam jr loved it because he loves to run and had no idea what was going on. I came into the house and saw my wife crying and hysterical. She said what do we do? I said we need to get you cleaned up first and I’m going to start timing the contractions right now. I knew from all of the books and our meeting with our medical teams we have to wait until we are 5 minutes apart in order to go into the hospital. I also knew that my wife was going to go in no matter what I said because she had been struggling with the flu bug and being sick so she wanted to get help asap. I called her parents first and told them to get on a plane right away. When I went back to close up our house in Lake Forest and do last-minute things to close down my businesses I gave them a check and told them to take it, cash it, and when we call get the first available flight over. I also knew how expensive a last-minute flight would be all the way from Chicago and didn’t want them to be burdened with that cost. My father in law said no at first until I showed him what a last-minute flight cost Lol Then he changed him mind and said okay. Thank goodness he listened.

They talked to my wife for a few minutes and told her to hang in there. I called Lindsay first. She was on her way in to town from Tokyo so I had to leave a voicemail. She texted me back and said I’m 8 hours out be there soon. Then I called Drew who was literally on his way to the airport anyway for his family vacation in Paris and all over Europe. Perfect timing!

Then I freaked out thinking OMG we don’t have Sarah this time, we don’t have everyone here right now. I don’t know what to do. My wife yelled at me from the bathroom and told me to help her shower. I walked into the shower fully clothed Lol I was that out of it. She died laughing and said how dedicated I am. I got undressed and helped clean her up since she couldn’t bend over and reach her legs and feet. Every time she tried to bend over she said she just started coughing. Anything she needs I’m willing to do. I didn’t care.

We got out of the shower and I helped get her ready and dressed. We have had her “Going to the hospital” outfit on a hanger in the bathroom for weeks. So that decision was already made. The reason why is because every time I wait for my wife to pick out an outfit, get ready, it’s MINIMUM 2 hours. She’s very slow at getting ready being this pregnant. It was a good idea and made it much faster. Her contractions were still far apart and we had plenty of time. We got out to the kitchen and I asked if she wanted anything to eat or any snacks. She said I AM NOT POOPING ON THAT TABLE so no. Just liquids Lol I’m not supposed to say if she did or not on the table because I promised I wouldn’t. So we grabbed her purse, looked through everything we needed and just sort of hung out in the living room for a little while. Finally they were getting a little closer, not 5 minutes apart but close, and she  said she just wanted to go in. Fine by me.

We kissed the kids goodbye and walked out to the car. I was trying to stay calm and reassuring. This means I SHUT THE F*** UP. My wife told me don’t piss her off during delivery. Don’t say anything stupid, don’t try and tell her how to breathe. Just get whatever she asked me to get and just be there to support her. She was not feeling very good and really needed me to not fuss like I usually do. I was in shock anyway so I wasn’t saying much.

She yelled at how fast I was driving. I was 10 under the speed limit by the way but she didn’t realize that. She yelled at me for dropping her off at the entrance and not just parking. I told her I am not going to make her walk from the parking lot when she’s in labor. She yelled at me to HURRY UP as soon as they got her into a wheelchair and I was parking the car.

I sprinted inside. SPRINTED Lol I didn’t want to get yelled at again. I found her and they were wheeling her up to the floor for new mommys. This was all pretty much a blur the next few hours.

She was in labor. They didn’t send us home (Again) for false labor. This was the real deal this time. We started with her breathing through the labor pains. I rubbed her back when she asked me. I got her ice chips when she asked me. I sat by her side the whole time and only left 2 times to take a piss. Everything was going high but her BP was still a little high. They gave her something for that and then they came in to check her. She was getting closer.

Her parents arrived first. Thank YOU JESUS. They were so happy to make it in time. I was so glad to see them. My mother in law kicked me out so that I could take a break while they sat with her and reassured her it was all going to be fine. I walked outside to get some fresh air and saw Lindsay coming from a taxi with a gigantic bird stuffed animal. I said WTF is that.

She said “Well it doesn’t have any hoofs or bird whatevers but it’s all I could find in Tokyo” Lol Lol

It looks ridiculous. She said she threw out most of her clothes into the trash to fit it into her luggage. Okay…

We went upstairs and she said “Where’s my nephew!!!” My wife just laughed and had to tell her all about how many times I have been yelled at. I wasn’t even doing anything wrong. I also knew not to argue at all. The last thing I needed was my wife to be stressed out by me so I just grinned. Who cares about any of that anyway. I was told several times don’t take anything personal and don’t leave the room even if she says get out. Drew told me that.

Finally an hour later Drew showed up with his wife. He left his parents at my house with the kids. He said he would bring them all up once Talon was born. So we have all of the people we wanted there. Now it was just a waiting game.

Fast forward a few hours later. Lindsay was telling some story about getting smacked in the face with a sushi roll by some chef who tried to throw something on her plate, my wife snort laughed and went into some heavy labor Lol One joke and the baby was coming. We kicked everyone out to the waiting room. They put me into some kind of outfit with a mask and off we went. It’s time!

Hearing my wife gives birth makes me never want to have sex with her ever again Lol I felt so bad. I knew our son was going to be big but I wasn’t really prepared with how much she was going to struggle to get him out. We had all joked about it but this was different. My wife is tiny. This is the most weight she has ever weighed in her life so this wasn’t easy at all for her. I honestly don’t know how she did it. Oh wait, yes I do, she had the drugs Lol She said this was going to kill her body and didn’t want to feel it. She was pushing and pushing. When the doctors told her to stop she did. They were doing somethings and then they said Big push. She pushed hard and out he came. There he is! Our son is here!

We both started crying. They put him up on her chest. I got to cut his cord and they took him to get him cleaned up. I kissed my wife’s forehead and held her hand. He had all of this hair Lol It’s like a dark brown hair. He’s huge. 9 pound baby! Wow!

They put him in a blanket and a little hat and gave him back to us. We got to love all over him for a while until we got back to the room. He was a little jaundice. That was a concern because none of my other babies started out with that. They put him under this lamp thing in a bed and covered his little hands up with baby mittens or something.

When he came back from that we finally let everyone into our room to meet him. Everyone got to hold him and take photos with him. Then we put him back down and let them take him back for another treatment. He had to do that 3 times a day to help him get his color back. The nurses told us it wasn’t bad at all just a slight jaundice so that’s good. One of them said it’s better to be cautious since he had the flu bug.

The next few days my wife lay in the hospital completely miserable and wanting to go home. We had to wait day after day to make sure both of them were well enough. The doctors did not want to send us home until they were both over the flu bug. They also wanted to make sure that Talon could breathe without any struggles at all. His lungs had a little gunk in them and the first few days they could hear crackles. Whatever that is, we had to wait.

Finally we got to take him home! It was the best day. My kids had already come up a few times to see him. They all had their flu shots a long time ago. We made sure they all got them before winter hit. We had to wait until Peace hit 6 months old before she got hers but she had hers a few weeks ago. She was fine.

We put him in his crib and both of my boys wanted to crawl in there to lay down with him. I told them in a few days we will get him out and put him on a blanket but for right now he just needs to chill with mommy. They don’t understand any of that anyway but it would be soon.

So now I have 2 boys about to be 2. I have a daughter who just turned 6 months old and a newborn son. Heaven help us all Lol

Drew took his family on vacation a few days ago. He said they will swing back by on their way back to the States. He has 2 weeks off from work and is going to really show his wife and kids all of Europe that he can. He said so far it’s going great and everyone is having a good time.

My wife’s parents are still here. Dave flew over to be with Lindsay. They are still here. Lindsay has been going to our Paris office to work and get things looked over. She said she will be leaving in a day or two. She has to get back to Las Vegas for 2 days then go back to Mexico. Very busy girl.

So now we are all home and just enjoying our baby Talon. I love the name. It grew on me. I didn’t like it at first. My wife said she loved it and that’s the only name she would agree on. I wanted to name him Adam Andrew Cooper but she said no AA Lol

I’m probably going to need AA when I have 4 teenagers in this house some day.

We are done having kids for at least 2 years. My wife said we have enough for now. She needs a break. She said I broke her vajayjay and that I’m cut off Lol I’m cut off for 6 weeks anyway so I was already prepared for that.

I am completely in love with my son. He is beautiful and perfect. 10 little fingers and toes. I counted as soon as he came out. I am so happy my wife made it through his birth. It was really hard on her since she was already sick. I pray she heals up soon and everything feels better. She said she is still sore. She is still trying to get everything to feel good when she sits or bends over. She is breastfeeding him. We agreed to do that for a full month. If she wants to stop at anytime I already have 10 different kind of vegan formula we will try out. I also have 2 cans of regular formula in case he doesn’t take the vegan formula well. We are ready. My wife is going to try to pump milk out tomorrow so that I can start feeding him too. So far she said it’s not that bad. He latches on pretty easily. He really doesn’t fuss at all. He’s perfect. I get to change all of his diapers and I’m happy to do so. It’s the least I can do since my wife is doing everything else with him.

We are just happy! Life is awesome. I have my 4 kids at home. The only thing missing is my son Ryan, God rest his soul! I really wish he were here. He would be 15 years old this year in May. He was due on Lindsay’s birthday. I really wish he was here to meet his brother but I know we will all get to meet him in Heaven some day. A looooong time from now but I pray he waits for us. I can’t wait for that day.

I love my kids! Hope everyone has enjoyed all of our photos and videos on our Family Facebook page! I will write back to your comments soon guys. Love ya’ll!

Talon Andrew Cooper is here!

Thank you to Karen for making this for us. I will write the whole birth story as soon as I have time. I came home for a few hours to rest and see my kids. I have been up at the hospital by my wife’s side since Talon’s birth. I feel refreshed and ready to go back up and be with them. I missed my kiddos at home and they missed me.

He is healthy and perfect, my wife is doing great. She’s a little sore but she said it was a smooth birth. She had the drugs Lol That helped her a lot. She was in labor I think 13 hours with him? Something like that.

I will update soon. We love Talon! I uploaded a bunch of photos to our Family Facebook page if you guys want to go check him out. My wife said ignore her rough look, she just gave birth Lol Some of her photos she does look a little rough but to me she’s just beautiful.

Our son is here! I can’t wait to take him home. We have to wait 1 more day before he can come with us. My wife will be getting out the same time he does. She had high test results again so they are keeping her in another night tonight. I pray she levels off because that does worry me a bit.

Thank you all for the great messages! Go look at his photos. He looks just like me!

Rowboat Book Club Book #61

This year I am not going off of a list. I’m dipping into my very large personal book collection. A lot of you guys have the same taste in books (Except Ned Lol) so I thought why not share my little loves to all of you.

We start the year with Breathing Lessons by Anne Tyler. And this will not be the only book from this author I use this year. You all know I love her.

Maggie and Ira Moran have been married for twenty-eight years and it shows: in their quarrels, in their routines, in their ability to tolerate with affection each other’s eccentricities. Maggie, a kooky, lovable meddler and an irrepressible optimist, wants nothing more than to fix her son’s broken marriage. Ira is infuriatingly practical, a man who should have married Ann Landers. And what begins as a day trip to a funeral becomes an adventure in the unexpected. As Maggie and Ira navigate the riotous twists and turns, they intersect with an assorted cast of eccentrics and rediscover the magic of the road called life and the joy of having somebody next to you to share the ride . . . bumps and all

1 week to go, Folks

Tomorrow morning when we wake up my wife will have 1 week to go before we meet our son Talon, hopefully. She is being a real trooper through all of this but geez I feel bad for her.

I am on my BEST BEHAVIOR because my wife ratted me out to my mother in law and she texted me some things that I won’t repeat Lol So now I don’t fuss, argue, eye-roll, or even let out a sigh anywhere near her. At all. I hold my tongue, I hop up and get whatever she needs. She is carrying my boy. I need to help out more. I thought I was but apparently I wasn’t. Sorry but I do have 3 other kids to tend to so if I screw up here or there, I don’t see a reason to run to your mom and tell on me. Deep breath!!!

We have flights booked for the few that will be coming over next week. We have their bedrooms already for them. I know Lindsay will be coming in from Tokyo so she’s going to be exhausted. I asked what she was doing over there and she said research. I don’t want to know. I’m not supposed to “worry” about the business stuff anymore because it’s all “handled and STFU about it”. That’s what Lindz told me via text a few days ago.

My job is full-time dad in waiting. I’m here to make my wife’s life a perfect whatever it is you have to do. I’m getting a little nervous though. She has no idea what she’s in for during the birth. I don’t either I just know that my hand was squeezed until my knuckles were white and I did my very best to stay calm and not freak out or pass out.

Yes I’m going to be in the delivery room. AND NO OTHER family or friend will be. That’s my wife’s choice. That means no creep-a** father-in-laws all up in there taking photos and staring at my wife’s vajayjay Lol If you don’t get that reference, just comment me and I will explain. I’m laughing just typing that one!

Only me and our medical team are allowed in. Every one else can wait outside and if she poops on the table that’s not public knowledge Lol I’m not supposed to say if she does or doesn’t. I already know her face will be a mess and she’s going to be exhausted right after. I am bringing up some extra pillows because we will be in there a day or two. It all depends on how it goes.

We did a quadruple check on his nursery. We have everything and if I forgot something Lindsay will go to the stores and stock us up anyway. She usually buys us 3 months worth of stuff for each new baby Lol It is very helpful and we really appreciate it.

Drew is in charge of telling the entire family and friend group everything. He said he made a list on his phone or who to call and how to text.

Now it’s just a waiting game. And boy am I impatient. I just want to see his little face and hold him. Ryan was my first boy and I never got to see him or hold him. He passed away a few months before he was born. This is my first biological child and not my last. We do want 1 more and we want to adopt 1 more but not for a few years. My wife said I am CUT OFF MISTER and I’m also not allowed to talk to my adoption attorney Lol She is serious. I agree. 4 kids, man. Who would have thought this would be my life.

I am so focused on my home life I only have 3 things written down for what I want my next chapter to be. I don’t want to divulge my list yet because after my son’s birth that may all change. I’m okay financially neither of us have to work, ever. I still want to keep busy with something though and so does my wife. We will figure it out.

Right now and for the next 7 days, life is all about my wife.

Wish me luck?!??!??

Guess who got put on Bedrest???

My wife is in our 38th week of pregnancy which means we have 2 weeks to go! We went to the doctor a few days ago and guess who got put on bedrest for the next 2 weeks? Talon is huge, he’s making my wife’s body painful, irritable, and uncomfortable. Her tests were elevated enough that our doctor said no more running around. This completely screws all of our plans for the next 2 weeks. My wife wanted to go out a few more times together before the baby comes. Now all I do is run down to different food shops to pick up my wife’s “cravings” and haul them all back home. I love my wife but she’s pissing me off Lol I can say that, right?

We do have everything ready for when it’s time to go to the hospital. We know our exact due date but that’s not how God wants my life to go. I know that at 2:20am after I’ve just gotten back into bed from feeding Peace my wife will wake me up and it will be time to go. We have actually practiced what to do when her water breaks, a few times. My wife thinks she can micromanage this baby coming. I just grin and STFU because I know right now, just let her do anything she wants. She no longer thinks my cooking is good enough. I am making too many healthy food choices and “Peanut” is craving fast food. I doubt that, because I know my baby boy is a vegan waiting to join the world Lol But okay. So at least 4 times I day I’m running down a few blocks to whatever she tells me to go get. She seems to forget I’m also trying to take care of the other 3 kids, her cat, my dog, and also still unpack all of my stuff that finally arrived from Chicago.

I’m venting because we just had a “discussion” about the laundry soap I’m using for Peanut’s clothes. Deep breath.

We had a WAR over his come home outfit. I don’t mean she bought an outfit, I bought an outfit and we compromised like to educated, sophisticated, adults. No. My outfit was thrown in the garbage disposal and turned on, only to be shredded into a tangle of mess Lol So in return, her outfit got glued onto a newspaper and hand delivered to her the next morning to enjoy her Life and Style section with an upgrade Lol

We still have not come up with a truce over that. Right now he’s just coming home in a diaper because F*** ME if I’m allowed to help pick out my son’s first outfit!!!!! RAAGGEEEEE!!! Deep breath!

Okay.

So now my wife is in bedrest which means I get my name shouted out at least 29 times a day and not in the way I like. This sucks. I can’t wait for that baby to get out of here.

And now I know exactly how Ross felt when Rachel wanted to have sex to get the baby moving Lol

I would try that but I’m not allowed in our bed room right now. I’m only allowed to open the door and drop in the sack full of meat, fries, pizza, tacos, or whatever it is she has ordered.

I think she’s revenge eating, guys. Is that a thing?

SERENITY NOW!

I survived the Bomb Cyclone

I finally made it to the States. I had a flight yesterday from Paris into NYC. Well it was in the middle of the Bomb Cyclone. The airport I needed to fly into was closed and all flights were either delayed or cancelled. Instead they diverted us up north and I had to wait until all of the airports opened up again. I thought about renting a big ol’ truck and just driving to NYC but that was a really dumb idea. Instead I hunkered down into a crappy hotel for the evening and waited until my airline contacted me to let me know what I was doing. I got a very early flight into NYC and am finally here. Now I’m waiting for them to get moving so I can get my plane out and fly to Chicago.

My plan all along has been to rent a hangar in NYC so that I can store my plane. When we fly into NYC I can then fly anywhere I want to go. But with all of this mess it may be easier to store it in Chicago during the winter until I can go put it back in NYC for the nicer months. Also my wife is really upset with me trying to fly in this crappy weather. I normally refuse to fly myself when it’s winter/snowy/icy out but I have so many things to get done and that means going to different cities. She has already told me to park it and take commercial flights (Yuck). I don’t like flying commercial. I will do it going overseas but once I’m there I prefer my own plane. I just don’t feel safe with someone else flying me or my family.

I have to make a big decisions here. Do I get my plane to Chicago and store it? Do I risk everything and hope for the best flying myself around? I don’t know. I have to keep in mind stressing my VERY PREGNANT wife with all of this is not healthy or good for her. She keeps telling me Peanut is going to show up any day now. Which would be my luck. I need her to be as calm as she can even though she’s Pregzilla right now Lol Anything I do, anything I say has a comment attached with it from her. She does not like anything I cook, the way I fold the towels, or even how I fed the cat. I wish I was kidding but I’m not. I laugh it off and wait for her instructions on how to do the simple tasks I’ve been doing this whole time. She’s nesting. She wants everything to be perfect but with 3 little ones around that’s not possible. In my head I keep saying I can’t wait until that baby is out of here. I want my wife back! To her I just smile and laugh it off and try to just get through whatever mean thing she’s saying.

Remember guys, this is only the 2nd time I’ve been around my own pregnant partner. My first passed away before we got to this point in our pregnancy so this level of hatred and venom for me I’m not used to. I mean I do have a capacity to piss women off. It’s like a real talent or something, however I’m not doing anything at all to make her mad. I’m not sitting around watching tv unless she wants to cuddle and binge watch after the kids go to bed. I have a lot of things to get done via email and she is always asking me what I’m doing. I’m working on my emails. To who? Well this one says blah blah blah…. It never ends.

We have this month to go. I pray every day that Talon comes soon Lol I just want a nice peaceful household.  We are 37 weeks and 1 day into this. I have already made it so far and so has she. She has to push a child into life from her body. I have no reason to complain. I’m just venting a little. Big deep breath!

I hope to be out of NYC by this afternoon. I hope I don’t have any delays getting home next week. I just want a quick trip to wrap up all of our things in Chicago and then I won’t leave the house again until her water breaks, I swear! Okay that’s not realistic but at least it’s a goal Lol

Stay warm guys! It’s F-CYCLONE-BOMB cold out there!