Single dad of 4 beautiful kids, Heston & Alex my twin boys, and my daughters Peace and Sky. Dad of 2 angel babies in Heaven, Ryan and Talon. Divorced. Semi-retired app developer, business partner, Commercial Real estate investor, Chicago Bears & Chicago Cubs fan, vegan, lifelong Catholic, voting independent party member, guitar playing singer who owns a dog, and 2 cats. We live in beautiful Denver, Colorado. I started my first blog Janaury 1st, 2012. Official owner of and @NotBatmanYet Twitter account.

Rowboat Book Club #103

Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness

by Richard H. ThalerCass R. Sunstein

Every day we make choices—about what to buy or eat, about financial investments or our children’s health and education, even about the causes we champion or the planet itself. Unfortunately, we often choose poorly. Nudge is about how we make these choices and how we can make better ones. Using dozens of eye-opening examples and drawing on decades of behavioral science research, Nobel Prize winner Richard H. Thaler and Harvard Law School professor Cass R. Sunstein show that no choice is ever presented to us in a neutral way, and that we are all susceptible to biases that can lead us to make bad decisions. But by knowing how people think, we can use sensible “choice architecture” to nudge people toward the best decisions for ourselves, our families, and our society, without restricting our freedom of choice.

Another Chicago Weekend

We have a lot to cram into one weekend but it’s going to be fun for the kids. Lindsay is actually home so she will be hanging out with us all weekend. She came over last night to talk about today’s house hunting. She took the women back to her house for some fun and because I didn’t have enough room for everyone to sleep here. Gabby came with us, so did Sarah and her baby. I kept the baby because she doesn’t need to see what goes on over at Lindsay’s house after dark. It’s shameful behavior.

This morning we are going to go look at 2 newly renovated Brownstones. Move in ready. If I find one I like, I’m buying it today. My condo just doesn’t fit all of us. It was perfect before I started adopting a million kids plus 2 nannies, not 1 nanny. I didn’t think Sarah or Gabby would be traveling with us much to Chicago, I was wrong on that one too. It’s time to upgrade. I need at least 5 bedrooms OR at least 5 rooms I can turn into bedrooms. My boys can get bunk beds and all share a room. That makes it much easier to deal with. My daughters share a room now, so that’s not an issue. That leaves me with my room and a room each for the nannies. However, if others join us, they can share a room, a bed, a couch, I don’t care. As long as my kids are comfy.

We are also going clothes shopping. The weather is going to be nice and cool, so I’m looking forward to some shorts/tshirt weather. And tonight we are going to a kids play. It’s a social distancing event outside. We have one of those tent things that you sit your chairs in. That will help us social distance, keep the riff raff away, and also get the bugs to stay off of us. It’s going to be a lot of fun. My kids love things that are interactive like that. It’s like tv but a live performance. I’m excited to see their faces.

I’m doing well. I plan on having a nice, calm weekend. Nothing too crazy. Tomorrow we are staying late because Lindsay wants to spend extra time with the kids. Peace Taylor will be turning 4 next weekend. The party planning has been nuts. Sarah is in charge of it, I’m paying her to do the birthdays and holiday planning, I’m useless. It’s going to be a beautiful pink/teal theme party. She did not want Winnie the Pooh or anything like that because “she is not a baby daddy, duh”. Okay.

Have a great weekend, folks. Thanks for stopping by.

P.S. Yes, that one rumor is true, and I will be going up to Utah soon Lol And no the other 2 rumors are all bullsh**.

Kallie the kitten is insane

Monday is coming up too fast. I have to decide what we want to do with Kallie kitten. She is 9 weeks old. The vet hasn’t found a home for her yet but she will take her to her vet clinic and start advertising her to find a forever home. The problem is Trey is in love with her. He loves Kaia and Kallie the most. And I’ve been giving Kallie to my neighbor Gabby because she has been interested in having a cat.

Kallie has done nothing to advertise herself because she bites, pounces, chews, and attacks everyone Lol She is the most playful kitten. She plays so hard she passes out. At Gabby’s house she started climbing all of the curtains, drinking all of the milk in one sitting, and doing one other thing that I won’t describe.

I don’t want another cat. I really don’t. Gabby wants a cat, but not THIS cat Lol I get it, she’s wild. I keep telling Gabby she will calm down as she gets older but I doubt she’s convinced. So today we will be having a family meeting at breakfast. I have to prepare Trey of 2 things. Either she’s hanging around our area or she’s gone. He’s going to be upset if she leaves. I know we can provide her an amazing life. She had a very bad start. I just don’t want another pet. I really don’t. I’m old, a cat adds 10+ years to your home life. I just don’t want to do it again. Kaia just turned 1 the other day. That’s good enough for me. Kallie will make a great addition to someone’s home. I have a feeling though Trey and the other kids will have a fit. I mean I caved in when we got Amanda from the pet store. I caved when we kept Kaia but she was an orphan. Kallie could be a great cat somewhere else. I don’t know. We will see. That’s going to be a hard conversation.

It’s coming down to the wire. I want to be honest so everyone can have 1 more great day with her in case she leaves us. I already know how this will go. I’m probably getting a new cat Lol

Everything else has been going great. We are traveling this summer. We do have big trips. I don’t think we are going to make it to Bolivia because of COVID. That’s okay. I understand the travel restrictions. I would rather go when I can be nice and relaxed instead of screaming DON’T TOUCH THAT, DONT GO NEAR THOSE PEOPLE every 10 seconds. We may just bounce between Chicago and Miami Beach. I haven’t wanted to go to Miami Beach until they find everyone who perished (or not, I still have hope) in Surfside building collapse. It’s such a sad, heartbreaking event and I wanted to distance ourselves from that a little until everyone has been accounted for. That being said, our next trip may be back to Chicago. This coming weekend. This time I have to take Bubba or he may disown me. He gets upset with my dog sitter (Mike’s mom) and misbehaves. I have always taken him on my trips. It just gets hard with the kids plus the dog. I think Chicago will be a lot of fun. We have been there a few times since we moved. The kids love it. They get to see their friends and their 2 previous nannies. It’s always a good time. Plus I’m missing my friends.

Hope everyone is having a fun summer. If you can’t get out and about, go out to your yard or a close by park. Get outside. It’s going to be a beautiful summer day!

NYC was fun

Last weekend I decided to take the family to New York City for 4 days. We left Thursday and had a fun flight out of town. The kids were happy, I had been telling them all week the fun things we could do. It was a huge planning process. I forgot Sarah used to handle all of those things. Now it’s on me to figure things out. We were able to stay COVID safe. We all wore our masks and protected the girls by making a circle around them anywhere we went. They are not vaccinated so it was important to me to do our best. It’s hard keeping a mask on the baby but she’s doing much better.

I took everyone out to see the Statue of Liberty on a tour. The ferry ride out was interesting. We clustered away from most of the group. We found out we could not go up to the top or even go in the pedestal but that’s okay. Just standing outside and looking up was amazing. I have done that tour a few times. In fact somewhere on this blog is a photo of me with Lady Liberty in the background. We all had a great time. I think it’s some place we need to visit again this year.

So the Delta variant is here. That’s scary. It sounds to me like even if you are vaccinated, you can still catch it. So we are back to wearing masks, not going out much and social distancing. I don’t know when this will end but I do know that people that claim to not want the vaccine, will catch COVID and will be hospitalized. You can think you won’t get it, but some day you will and then you go through hell and regret that decision. Joe Biden has really turned things around and I am so thankful most of the kids have their shots already. Please continue to wear your mask, social distance and do your best to gather in small groups if you must. I did notice in NYC there was a huge surge in safety and health protocols. Trey had asked if we could ride the Subway but I said no. That’s too enclosed. Everything we did was a timed tour with just our little group involved. We had food delivered or I had my car service stop and pick it up for us on our way to or from places. That worked out the best.

Our next trip we are going on a car ride up to Steamboat Springs. I’m trying to get familiar with Colorado. We have not done much exploring. I am getting more into the local shopping. I love supporting small local businesses. I try to buy something even if I don’t find something I love. I can always use it as a gift.

I’m trying to plan a trip to Cancun, Mexico soon but with Covid restrictions that may not happen. There are a lot of International trips I had planned but I’m backing off of them. Not all of the world has been lucky enough to have the vaccines. It’s still not fully safe to move around the world like we used to. I’m going to be doing more road trips until things get a better outlook. Hope you guys are staying safe. I will add my photos into my photo section on here. Thank you guys for reading this and have a great week!

Happy $5000 Father’s Day Giveaway

Update: We picked a winner and posted the screenshot for PROOF on my Twitter page.

Today we will be doing another $5000 Cashapp Giveaway. The last one went over very well. I’m opening up the comments/email sections on this blog as well as posting on my Twitter account/Social Media accounts. Just drop your CASHAPP tag if you can see this and someone will be randomly selected. The winner will be asked to post a screenshot of their Cashapp activity to prove they did receive the funds. I have loaded up my Cashapp with money a while ago. It’s ready to go. I pray it helps someone or a family.

Happy Father’s Day to all the cool dads holding it down. I know how hard being a dad is in 2021. It’s a lot to shoulder and a whole lot of doing things you don’t necessarily have to do. 2020 kind of sent everything we have ever known into a tailspin. Supporting the family has taken a whole new meaning. I appreciate my kids, I love them dearly. I know I’m a 2 star Dad raising 5 star kids. I try very hard every day and I’m trying to lead by example. I never thought I would be here with 5 kids, living my life in Denver and still no mom in sight. I am trying to figure all of that out but I refuse to settle.

We have some very fun Dad things planned for today. We are going to plan our next day trip for this coming weekend. We had a trip planned for Friday night but we had some unexpected things come up. That’s okay we will be visiting that place this week instead. I think that will work out much better for the weather anyway.

Call your dad. Don’t buy him a tie. Dads love food. Give him something good to eat and tell him how much you love and appreciate him. That’s all we really want. That and the remote all day. Love you guys! Eat your veggies and fruits!

Rowboat Book Club #102

Malibu Rising

by Taylor Jenkins Reid

Malibu: August 1983. It’s the day of Nina Riva’s annual end-of-summer party, and anticipation is at a fever pitch. Everyone wants to be around the famous Rivas: Nina, the talented surfer and supermodel; brothers Jay and Hud, one a championship surfer, the other a renowned photographer; and their adored baby sister, Kit. Together the siblings are a source of fascination in Malibu and the world over–especially as the offspring of the legendary singer Mick Riva.

The only person not looking forward to the party of the year is Nina herself, who never wanted to be the center of attention, and who has also just been very publicly abandoned by her pro tennis player husband. Oh, and maybe Hud–because it is long past time for him to confess something to the brother from whom he’s been inseparable since birth.

Jay, on the other hand, is counting the minutes until nightfall, when the girl he can’t stop thinking about promised she’ll be there.

And Kit has a couple secrets of her own–including a guest she invited without consulting anyone.

By midnight the party will be completely out of control. By morning, the Riva mansion will have gone up in flames. But before that first spark in the early hours before dawn, the alcohol will flow, the music will play, and the loves and secrets that shaped this family’s generations will all come bubbling to the surface.

Malibu Rising is a story about one unforgettable night in the life of a family: the night they each have to choose what they will keep from the people who made them . . . and what they will leave behind.

Catching Up

This is the week I’m trying to do about a year and a half of catch up work. I did our medical appointments the past 2 weeks. That was top priority. I did the Trey finalizing his conversion to Catholicism. I took him down to the Church by myself after the poor kid had to do virtual/delayed/virtual/delayed again class. I felt so bad for him. It took 3 times longer than it’s supposed to take. That was number 2 on my list.

Sigh. Clothes shopping. Like probably, all of you, I’ve had to shop online to buy clothes for 5 children that outgrow everything in 2 months. They are all at different growth spurts. It feels like I just get one re-clothed? Is that even a word? Lol We get everything in, someone else pops up with a shirt that is now a bib. It’s ridiculous. Throw in, I don’t know how to shop for kids. I had Sarah do that. She’s gone, enjoying her quiet life before she starts her new work life. I could have called her and asked her to help but I want to figure things out on my own. I signed a contract with Lynn and Brenda for 5 years. We are in the 2nd year of that, I have 4 more years to figure parenting out because at that time, they are moving on. I wanted to get Sky (MY LAST CHILD I SWEAR) into school and everyone else into a routine.

Clothes shopping with my boys is a nightmare. They want to look at everything but not pick anything out. And then there’s my favorite, the BAD ATTITUDES. One gets going, the other 2 join in and next thing you know I am saying PICK A SHIRT, I DONT CARE WHAT SHIRT. JUST PICK 1! And when they refuse, I grab 2 shirts and off we go with a chorus of I am not wearing that, That’s ugly following me Lol

My daughters have always been much easier to shop for. They love everything. Everything is Ohhh Daddy, its pretty. Easy. And now today, I have to finally shop for myself. That means I have to go to the Big & Tall stores because regular clothes do not fit me. I’m too tall and lanky. Also I have a round bubble butt so regular shorts, dress pants, jeans do not fit me either. I got the family butt and mixed with my dad’s tall tree family traits, I’m a freak Lol

It’s also uncomfortable because I’m going into a store where most of the guys are just Big, not so much Tall. My skinny a** is looking for things and the other guys are looking at me like you A**HOLE, get out Lol It sucks. So here is the game plan for today. The nannies are going to play a few games with the kids. I’m taking 2 hours out of my morning to hit 2 stores. I’m going to grab lunch on my way home to make it easy. I will spend the rest of the day doing laundry for my new clothes and finishing up the girls laundry with their new clothes from yesterday. We are going to swim and swim often. It’s been hot in Denver. I love it!

And then I am going to host a neighborhood dinner. I am FINALLY ready to make friends and invite people over to my house. My house is done, my yard is done. I’m ready. I’ve had my house in disarray for almost 2 years now. I’m ready to gather the few neighbors I sorta know and get to know them much better. I have 1 friend here in Denver, Gabby and 2 down in Colorado Springs. My buddy Mike and his mom. I haven’t made time to go get me some new friends. I tried to sign up for an Open Mic night, but then the place got shut down and they re-opened with no spots for a few weeks. I’m also planning on going to the Farmer’s Market on the weekend because honestly, that’s mostly where I’ve met my friends. That is one perk on being a Vegan. The minute you say that, the veggie/fruit vendors chase you Lol HAVE YOU TRIED MY GREEN BEANS? Uh no. HERE, YOU WILL THANK ME. Uh, okay.

My life has been on pause. I just hit Unpause, and off we go. We have several trips planned over the next many, many, weekends. I’m taking my kids the heck out of the house. This weekend is another trip. We just did Nebraska, last weekend. Next weekend is a trip, and the following week I have the car permit passes to drive up to Estes Park.

I’m happy to be in the air again. I love to fly. I love the convenience (Had to look up that word, I forgot the other e) of having my own plane. Right now it’s very safe and private. Right now, its the best way to get across the country. I don’t need hot weather trips, I have 99 degree weather in Denver. We are exploring up North. Yes, really. My babies need some heat relief. We have some beautiful tourist spots that even I have never seen. I want my kids to enjoy our land. It’s part of their lives too.

I need to go, this blog post has taken a year and a half to write my goodness. I can hear one of my son’s looking for me. Have a great day guys, Love you!

I still don’t know what the heck I’m doing Lol But I’m trying.